For me to check out the latest foreign film at the Landmark Theatre in St. Louis and see what's playing on a night when all family members are booked is quite the treat. I have never had a hard time going out by myself. I find it very relaxing and it's a guaranteed wonderful time where I get to choose the movie that I want, or the restaurant that I want to dine in, as I said quite the treat. On the Today Show on NBC they just did a story called Table For One, The Rise of Solo Dining. Recent polls show that going out solo is on the rise and becoming more and more acceptable. According to Open table, reservations for dining alone are up 62 percent. Recently I have started traveling more and room service isn't really appealing to me. I like to go to a nice restaurant and get something healthy but fused with what is popular in that city. Let's not forget a nice glass of wine or a native brewed beer depending on where I am. Even when I was younger and traveled I never had a problem eating out when I was in a city where no one knew me. It was a little harder in the town I was living in... why I felt like that in my 20's and 30's I have no idea. But I can tell you right now I could park a table in the middle of the street in down town St. Louis and eat dinner by myself and not give a rats ass of what anybody thinks. I love dining alone and enjoying every single bite!
For some reason in the past there was a stigma to eating alone. I know I use to feel like people were looking at me and thinking oh poor thing she couldn't find anyone to eat with her. I know it wasn't just in my mind the thought is reflected in movie clips and sitcoms. Society's mind set on dining alone is changing but so is my midlife mind set. When I am out alone or I see a midlife woman out alone I am thinking, lucky lady she is enjoying an evening to herself. Or i think, oh thank God I escaped and found some alone time. Funny how your mind set changes everything. EEnmaal is the first one person restaurant where tables are set for singles only. BBC news has a great article that made me laugh out loud reflecting on the stigma to eating alone goes all the way back to our childhood and the school cafeteria. Stating that basically that was social suicide. Of course they are right! I am sure even today my children would not be caught dead eating alone in their school cafeteria. At midlife I relish the silence, the entire dining experience, I appreciate what I am eating it's not just to fill my hunger. I am sure in big bustling cities like New York City it's very common to eat alone especially during a non meal occasion when you are just grabbing something on the go. Even breakfast and lunch are easier to do alone. But dinner can still be a challenge to do alone, especially when we are talking about fine dining. Honestly, when I go out alone it is most definitely to treat myself, so it is usually fine dining. A recent study shows Dallas, Miami, and Denver are the top three cities with the greatest growth in dinner reservations for one.
Other social events that cause people to raise their brows is going to a wedding, concert, or a movie alone. Again 20 years ago Ahhh NO. Now, no problem just a delight for me and many of my friends at mid-life. My absolute favorite day to go to a movie is a rainy or snowy day when you really don't even want to get out of bed. I usually try to find a theatre that sell's wine if I'm going to be truthful. If you haven't tried a nice cabernet with movie theatre buttered popcorn you are missing out. I get on line and try to find an afternoon special and quickly by the ticket. Sometimes I sneak out of the house at 2:00pm other times I wait until 8:00pm after dinner and settle for a cab and milk duds if I'm too full for popcorn. The full body of the cab with the sweet milk dud... another must try! Either way I get to pick the movie, my seat, and I get to slouch down and hide in solitude. Seriously does that not sound AWESOME? Here are 13 Reasons You Should See Movies by Yourself More Often! Really the fear of going out alone, I think has more to do with worrying about what people will think of you and at midlife... We Don't Care! We just don't. I think that is why it's easier to just do what you want to do. I think it's healthy to enjoy yourself as you get older and explore new interests that may be developing. Start small, I'm not saying to go solo to a movie on a Friday date night, or to go to the most popular restaurant on a Saturday night. Just don't deny yourself when you find yourself alone and you are really in the mood to do something. Go Do It!
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
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