I'm one of those that has never been to a high school reunion. I really don't have a good reason except I don't like reunions in general... that includes family reunions. That all changed over Labor Day weekend this year. Going back in time was a bundle of emotions. Emotions that I embraced and I encourage you to do the same. Let me tell you why I think the 30th is the best if you aren't fond of reunions. And let's be clear, I loved high school! They were some of the best years of my life. I had great friends, I was a cheerleader for an amazing 5A football team in a town obsessed with football in Enid Oklahoma. We had a great class of over 450 students and HELLO it was the 80's. Life was PERFECT! Maybe that's why I never wanted to go back. I wanted to remember everyone just the way they were when we graduated. Not sure of my reasoning but here are 5 good reasons to attend your high school reunion.
10year Reunion- A good friend from high school was having a wedding three months after so why bother. Not to mention if it were harpoon season I would have been speared as I was nearing the end of my pregnancy. In my mind I felt this gathering would entail asking about where I went to college, if I was dating, if I was married, and discussions about my career choice. Yes, I was happily married, pregnant with my first child, and a news reporter. Nothing bad, I just didn't want to spend two evenings talking about those topics. No to the 10th reunion.
20year Reunion- I felt this was a status of judgement time. Trying to figure out how successful you are in life. If you are still married and if so... do you have 2 kids with the family pet and do you live in the great house with the pool. How many vacations have you taken and did you make it to Bora Bora. Again, life was good. I was freelancing, had two great kids and we did travel quite a bit. But if you weren't getting my Christmas cards by now, I didn't want to share/listen to 20 years of adventures at a two night reunion. Still just not appealing to me, sorry sorta selfish.
30year Reunion- I RSVP yes. Not really sure why, except I missed all that I was blessed with in my past. Memories and people were starting to get fuzzy. Thanks to Face Book I was aware that we had lost several classmates. I had not been back to Enid since my parents moved in 2002. I just got out of a cast and had gained 13 pounds so I wasn't even looking great. But something was drawing me back. I think there was a fear that at almost 50 years of age my reunion opportunities of seeing so many that I missed and had so much fun with were dwindling. Mentally I broke it down to this... at my 40th things could be busy with my children and their marriages, births etc. 50th- well who is to say I will make it to that reunion and how many more people might we lose in our class by then? No, it was time for me to head back to see The Class of 1985. Recent articles state that reunions in your 50's are the best to go to... and they are correct!
Why? Because we are all humbled by then. All the superficial stuff of the previous reunions doesn't matter. It is a wonderful celebration of the past and the present all wrapped up into one. People just want to know how you are doing in general, how your parents are and that life in general is treating you ok. The first night is so exciting. People walk in and two things happen. You recognize them or you don't! It is a rather fun game. I was called Melanie three times. The good news is I think they called my girlfriend Melanie by my name just as much! LOL. Overall my classmates looked amazing inside and out. There were lots of hugs, lots of reminiscing, and so very much laughter. On the last night I was laughing so hard with some of my close friends that I wet my pants. Something that I would have done in high school. It really is like you are totally transported back into time. There was a table with candles and names of the 20 we lost. They were missed... rest in peace dear friends. Some were divorced, some were in between jobs, some were already grandparents but no one cared. At your 30 year reunion people accept you for who you are and for the journey. Because son of a bitch no one tells you... but life is hard!
Statistics show that the 50th Class Reunion is the most attended. Click here for some other reunion statistics. Truthfully that will probably be the next reunion I attend with the Grace of God. But at this 30th reunion we were all filling up our phones with contact information because I think times are changing. It's easier to stay connected and travel. As we become empty nesters we have more time, and what better way to go through the next phase of life. Connecting with old and new friends and traveling the world to share what life has to offer. Trust me when I say the 30year reunion is a good time to travel back. To all of those who worked so hard to make the EHS reunion a success... Thank You! Dancing the night away to Queen, Tears for Fears, U2, Duran Duran and The Police was so fun! Until I see you all again. Thanks for the memories old and new. I love you all just the way you are!
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya! (unless it's you're 30th reunion)
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