Last week I did an unusual blog where I just wrote random midlife thoughts. They were things that run through my head that I often want to talk about but it's really not a sufficient enough topic for a full blog. As I got to the end of my thoughts and blog I had looked over at my husband while he was sleeping and I wondered what do midlife men think about? What troubles them, what haunts them, and what nags at them during midlife. Well there was only one way to find out. I reached out to several midlife men that I know (my husband opted out which I respected) and I asked them to share their thoughts with us 40 something women. Lucky for us they were very forthcoming.
~ I thought I would be in a different place spiritually and financially so I feel like I let my kids down. I let them down as THE MAN they should have in their lives as a role model.
~Trying to stay focused on today as tomorrow has so many questions regarding health, making it to my daughters next birthday, graduation, wedding and grandchildren.
~Something is wrong at this stage in life, I have anxiety and things just feel off. Everyone pisses me off. I think with age I have lost the ability to cope and have patience. I'm searching for answers that I can only do on my own. That means NO I don't want to talk about it.
~I love where I am in life with my family and friends. Life is good at midlife and I'm optimistic that the nearest next phase is going to be a great ride before the sunset chapter begins.
~I'm realizing all these new models and singers and actors are young enough to be my daughters. I feel like a dirty old man when I watch television now. When the hell did this happen? To make matters worse I am no longer a 'catch' with extra weight and a balding head. You ladies aren't the only ones losing your sex appeal.
~Figuring out how to manage the financial life of college, private high schools and another looming college education.
~I don't know why when people think of midlife men they think only fast sports cars and young women. For me it was depression and I don't think I am alone. I have everything I could ever want;
a beautiful family, home, and I am financially sound. But I still feel like I need some type of change to stay alive. Can't really explain it.
Thank you to all the men who let their guards down and shared their random thoughts. Many of the men I reached out to never responded. They may not be ready to share their midlife thoughts and I completely respect that, so no worries. Ladies as you can see midlife men have fears too. I was reading just in general how men handle midlife crisis'. It says they usually need someone to talk it through with them an that it usually takes two years to concur. Just something to think about... Men tend to keep more of their thoughts and feelings hidden. Know that their midlife thoughts are running away to frightening places as they age... just like ours.
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
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