Besides the fact that we are now pretty set in our ways and can no longer travel through Europe with just a back pack. There is a lot to consider when you get to midlife and you want to travel. March being Spring Break season and having a college kid who would rather go with his buddies than the family, opened my eyes to my New Transition Travel Itinerary. It was like someone threw cold water onto my face. First, I had to get over the fact that my soon to be 20-something kid didn't even ask me first, if he could make plans without the family. I'm still looking in My Parents Handbook to see if that's allowed? Hell I don't know? Everything is so different now. Bye bye Disney World, hello Canyon Ranch Hotel & Spa in Miami Beach... that's a good thing. Still there are so many other changes. Now that many of our kids have flown the coop, trips are shall we say... more complicated and basically, just different. There are more all women trips with your girlfriends, couples trips, and more adventures between just you and your spouse. The let's keep shooting for those family vacations in between college spring breaks and new jobs are still part of the equation. Don't get me wrong, if you can snag a kid or two for two or three days, as midlife parents we are willing to move mountains to make it work. Lastly, there is the other looming transition. Your adult children's new significant others. GULP! I'm verklempt, this is quite a task for the new midlife travel agenda. Lord in heaven where to start?
Planning is Everything... do you hear me Everything. Don't kid yourself. Thelma and Louise we aren't. Between my husband and I alone, he is allergic to fructose and corn syrup. I am allergic to cheese and I don't do a lot of of carbs. We both can't read the fine print on anything without glasses and at no circumstances do we leave the house without Tums or Miralax. I will not divulge between the two of us who needs which one, but suffice it to say we can't just pick up and go without a check list. Traveling at midlife for us means checking and double checking and planning before we can even pull out of the damn driveway. Here are 6 reasonable travel tips for your midlife adventures.
The rest of it I guess is just an acceptance of change and the requirement of more creative planning. If your adult children are traveling with friends for a long weekend, offer to foot the bill before or after their trip to get them to the location of the family trip. Another option is to make the family trip close to where they will be for their trip. Maybe use www.doodle.com to get your next vacation scheduled with all the young adults in your family. Let them see that you are acknowledging that their schedules are just as important as yours and you are willing to honor them to make a family trip possible. Besides, there are a lot of amazing trips you can now take that are ONLY offered to 20 and over children. Even better schedule around the K-12 spring breaks if possible. Regarding the significant other... bite your tongue and welcome them if you want to be with your kid. Chances are its someone awesome who also cares for your child. If not, hmmm maybe that's another blog titled Getting Rid of Psycho Significant Others. Just kidding. Well, not really. In closing, I will say on a positive note, that at midlife traveling with girlfriends is quite the trend and a fun one! There's a little more free time so a weekend to the lake or the farm is very doable and quite the treat. If you want something more adventurous like a girlfriends bucket list vacation, there is actually a website for Women's Travel Groups. Which makes me rethink my earlier statement. Maybe, just maybe, we can be Thelma and Louise... if just for a week.
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...