Let me start with the fact that I am a huge traveler. I grew up traveling extensively at a very young age. I have known my way around an airport since I was 3 flying on Pan Am. I was born with a passport and am very comfortable with travel. My husband has also traveled quite a bit and has also lived abroad. So what happens at midlife with that ease and carefree attitude about traveling? Oh, I know we are no longer as adventurous, and I know we need more comfortable lodgings as our bodies can no longer sleep on a floor or bad bed. But overnight I noticed that many of us… my husband included, are starting to get a little more up tight with travel as we age. Overall I think traveling is easier compared to the way we used to travel.
Recently we had to take our son to college. This required renting a car to load up all the stuff and driving one way over 12 hours. Then flying back home after three days of orientation and getting him settled in. I'm going to put it out there and say road-trips are not good for our marriage. I guess we don't do long road trips in the car. I think over 20 something years of marriage our max is usually 6 to 8 hour drives. He usually drove and that was it. At home he usually drives if we are going out for the evening. So when we switched for me to drive, I was in for a rude awakening. I don't now how I made it through 40-something years without him being my drivers ed coach. You're tailing, don't follow so close, don't clear the speedometer when you fill up, what's the speed limit… set cruise a few over, don't hang by this truck etc. I thought I was going to scratch his eyes out! Finally he fell asleep. It was amazing, we actually made it there with me behind the wheel. Seriously I could have slapped him! No more long road trips for us. Many people feel road trips are a good way to bond and engage with your spouse. We failed! Here are some marriage games to play on road trips if you are stronger than us!
I guess I should have suspected travel would change as we age. Just never really thought that hard about it since we were great travelers. Our flight left at 6:55pm. I wanted to explore downtown and hang out until the last second possible. He felt better getting to the airport early. We got there at 3:00pm. WTH!!!! It was like I was traveling with my parents on the AARP tour. He also asked me a dozen times when does our flight leave? What difference did it make we were there? Not to mention I could have been rude and said there are monitors all over the place and you have your boarding pass just look! But, I could never be so cruel… I do love this aging newfound bad traveler. My rule of thumb is if you get to the airport and your gate posts two other departures for different cities before your flight … You got there too damn early! But he's not alone I have my issues too. I need to travel like I did when we had babies, with a purse full of goodies. Tylenol for headaches, Tums for when we eat the wrong thing, Bengay for aches. I also always have food. We both go crazy when hungry. He gets angry, I get headaches and light headed. He is allergic to fructose and corn syrup now, which also did not help on the long drive. Fast food would mean intense bathroom stops for us. (TMI I know) I need a cushy for airplane seats now. I just ache after a flight. Its like something is jabbing into my tailbone. We do still love to travel and we are getting close to that stage in our lives where traveling more will be easier (so to speak). Guess we have to pick our traveling routes and transportation carefully at midlife. Here are some tips to adapt to travel changes as we age. Know your limits, your strengths and plan plan plan. I am happy to report we are still married and plan to travel again soon.
*Above photo from asmithblog.com
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