by Matuschka Lindo
Have you heard about this study that says there is a "Happiness U Curve" and that the happiness we enjoy in the early and late decades of our life plummets to the bottom of the curve in our mid 40's. (They're telling us this because???) I read some of the study and it was not very uplifting. Going on and on about how they reported in the journal of Social Science and Medicine that our level of happiness tends to not only be low... but hit ROCK BOTTOM in our mid 40's, regardless of gender or geography. Then it goes on to say after analyzing data from 2 million people in 80 countries, they can't pin point a "why" behind the consistency among such diverse populations, only that it exists.
Well, I can tell you "why"... it's the three D's. I was hanging with some friends at a bridal shower over the weekend and there were a lot of young mothers running around chasing their cute babies. We (meaning the mature members of the Three D's Casserole Club) just admired them and thought how fun life was back then newly married, new baby, new house, new experiences; from jobs to family life. Then there is midlife, the land of the 3 D's, Divorce, Disease and Death which has us not only mentally stressed and depressed, but running casseroles all over town to help our dear friends in need. I'm not knocking it, just stating where we are in life. The point is, I don't need a study to tell me I am at the bottom of the Happiness U Curve. I want the timeline from the study showing when I will be getting out! Let's just say I am ready now.
Although, the more I read the more I found the somewhat positive side of this. First, I'm getting closer to fifty so that means there is a light at the end of the U-Tunnel right? It would be nice if the study said, "Hey, at 54 you start moving back up the U." Unfortunately it does not give an exact age of when the party starts again. Second, it is encouraging to think I am supposed to end my life on a high note of happiness! For those who are closer to heading into the dip (Forget the study... take it from me that dip takes a direct pivot down around 40). You could think of ways to be pro active and to discredit these researchers, by taking control of your life and your happiness. Don't let statistics trap you, reach for the top of that curve!
I also wonder if by knowing we are all going through the same motions, mentally asking ourselves the same questions about our achievements and dissatisfactions, men and women alike. Maybe we can step back and deal with the Three D's better. Something to think about for sure. My advice, let's all try to schedule Happiness into our lives by focusing on the Three S's Sleep, Shopping and Sex. (In that order)
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