The truth of the matter is that when you reach my age you no longer need the pomp and circumstance every year. Now they may be needed some years-Hint: 20, 25, 30, 40, 50 etc. The showy gifts aren't the same once you have traveled down an amazing journey of ups and downs with a growing family. As most women get older Valentine's Day is a much simpler affair in our minds. This could make things very complicated for the men out there, grabbing a box of chocolates is probably a whole lot easier. For example; I hate overpriced flowers for Valentine's Day, besides I don't like to get what everyone else is getting how is that special? I don't want to go out and eat, because they are turning the lovers tables as fast as they can at restaurants, and my favorite chocolate is butterfingers not truffles and there is nothing romantic about butterfingers. So my husband is at a complete disadvantage. Why? Because after 20-something years of marriage, now I just want to watch a movie together in bed and have chinese delivered. I want to find a post it on the toilet seat that says something nice, or go on an early morning walk together then grab coffee. I want it to be simple yet sentimental. At midlife it's a different level of valentine's that the media and the stores just can't market to. For us women I think their stomach is still the way to win them over, along with some tender loving care… It's as Easy As Pie!
Even though I am a hopeless romantic. I am also realistic. We all know by now that love does fade in and out. The strategy is to keep it from dying out. We are all human. I admit I have rolled over in bed and looked at my husband while he was sleeping and thought. Really? This is it, for the rest of my life…. Holy Shit what now! But then other times I roll over and think ohh he is still soooo cute even with that gray on his chin. It's the roller coaster of life. Just ride it together. But if a wheel comes off and life takes a different turn. Valentine's Day is for everyone so still celebrate! For all the single ladies, share your love with some girlfriends. There is no greater love than what you get from the ones who have heard your darkest secrets and have watched you cry your eyes out about that asshole. Girlfriends get us through it all! If you want a good laugh to accompany the day try this hilarious book that celebrates on line dating at mid life. So in closing, maybe it's just me, but Valentine's Day at midlife does not need to be purchased. Remember love will not keep you together unless your actions speak louder than the words. You need someone because you love them(so show them). You don't love someone just because you need them.(You may need a maid, or a cook, or a booty call) That's NOT LOVE!
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...