I noticed two things when it came to deaths once I hit midlife. First, I started noticing that with age came my own memoriam of dear friends and family. Good people who I actually knew had done great things and changed lives if even in the smallest of ways. They were great parents, husbands, friends not pretend characters. They were people who truly blessed me by entering my life in some way. Next, I noticed that many deaths happened around the Holidays. Which was so frustrating, we're supposed to be joyous and happy right? Believe it or not there is research to support my death theory and I have witnessed it the last several years. More people die between the start of the Holidays Mid-December through New Year's Day. And they are not dying for the reasons you may think... Studies show that the suicide rate doesn't spike at the Holidays. In fact, the suicide rate in December is at it's lowest. The homicide rate also goes down for the Holiday. They are just natural deaths. My grandmother believed that God saved the best for his favorite time of year. And she wanted to be part of that group, she actually prayed for it.
We used to talk about death all the time. I would tease her and say, "Are you ready to go abuelita?" She would curse at me and tell me she would tell me when she was damn well ready. Well, she was ready at 93 years of age. She wanted to go during the Christmas season because she used to tell me that God would take all who died that time of year straight to heaven. That was his gift from advent through New Years. Not sure if it's true but I choose to believe. She wanted to have her wake and final mass at her favorite church where she went almost everyday in Chicago at Holy Name Cathedral. I loved going with her when I visited, it is a beautiful Cathedral. It burned down in the Great Chicago Fire of 1871 then was re-built 4 years later. My Grandmother told me she was ready to die on her birthday August 14, 2009. She wanted to make it to Advent but said she was at peace and ready. After surviving another fire February of 2009 The Cathedral was more beautiful than ever and had just reopened August 1, 2009. She went to mass and decided it was ready for her... My grandmother Violet Josephs, died December 22, 2009. She was 93 and got the Christmas present she wanted.
This year my personal Memoriam list was pretty long and many friends lost parents and spouses and other loved ones... The most recent loss a dear neighbor on New Year's Day. I think my grandmother was right. God takes some of the best during the Christmas Season.
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...