A sudden feeling of feverish heat, typically as a symptom of menopause. A feeling that can come when you think of decorating the house for Christmas, all the baking and cooking for family, and the mother in law that wants to show you how to do Christmas right.
This is where Midlife Mayhem becomes Sensible Simplicity. Remember when the kids were little and you went out of your way to plan the perfect Christmas. Many of us started in September thinking of our Christmas list, the perfect outfit to put our cute little kids in for the creative Christmas card. Lets not forget the added extra's to the Christmas gift giving and celebrating. St. Nick Day, The Epiphany, Gingerbread House making, Breakfast with Santa, Our Holiday Parties and the list goes on and on and on.
I don't know why it takes so long but by the time you hit mid life you say, "Wait a minute" Christmas is about all of us... the entire Family and that includes me. So you take a step back FINALLY, and say I have had enough of this self-inflicted stress. So unless our families want us to become the Grinch changes have to be made.
My Aha! moment that I no longer had to overdo it for Christmas came when we kidnapped the kids the day before Christmas five years ago, and took them to Disney World. There was no fancy dinner, we didn't all have to dress to the nines for Midnight Mass. The ridiculous spread of presents that caused me to shop for months and over spend just because it was on sale was instead wrapped into this trip. No baking was done and no in-laws or extended family were invited. This was the BEST Christmas for my family including me. Stress Free, filled with love and my family 24-7. No meetings, no work, just laughter and smiles and the magic of Christmas (and Disney) in my kids eyes.
We got off the plane at 8:00am in Orlando in jeans and sweatshirts. We checked into the hotel then raced to the rides. We spent the entire day in all the different parks. The Castle was covered in Lights... I thought... Thank You Walt for decorating for me this Christmas! At the stroke of 11:30pm we raced out of the park. We quickly found a driver and in our casual garb raced to Mary Queen of The Universe for Midnight Mass, thinking there would probably be a handful of people there. What a surprise when we saw the hundreds of people spilling out of the doors and outside. We had to sit on the floor next to some people from London, Ireland, Milan, and Texas.
It was the best homily I had ever heard. And we were sharing it with HUNDREDS of people from all over the world that shared the true meaning of Christmas. The kids were laying on our laps on the floor exhausted and happy. I was leaning against my husband thinking all I did was buy some tickets, use some miles and hotel points, and it was the most relaxing and meaningful Christmas I ever had. It was truly possible to have a great Christmas without all the preconceived notions of what everyone needed and the list of what I was supposed to do to make Christmas Perfect.
Really? Christmas will be okay without me cooking for 11 hours and baking? Well, yes I guess so. Everyone loved renting Christmas movies and ordering dinner by room service as we ate in bed, resting before hitting the parks again for all the Parades and Shows. Let go of The Holiday Hot-Flash Christmas. Good things really do come in small packages. Let there be peace at home and let it begin with YOU!
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...