Overall I have about seven friends I can call up for anything regardless of how much time has passed between us and we pick up right where we left off. But I believe at mid life ALL of our relationships change including our friendships. For me personally it's about quality time and positive people. Gone are the days of meeting for lunch and bitching about everything from husbands, to box tops, to laundry, dinner etc. I mean how many more lunches and boutiques can I do on a regular basis and feel my life has purpose. Once in a while for a special occasion and for a charitable cause... fine.
Friendships take a long time to develop, therefore I am not throwing any out the window. I definitely want to keep the ones I have. My college group keeps me young. We still attempt to do things we are too old for and insist that we should, since we feel young. Age is what you want it to be and this group believes we are 20-something forever. Then there are my high school friends that we keep in contact through social media and Skype. (Technically I have seen these people in person and still do occasionally. So, no they are not casual Facebook friends. That's a whole other warped thing to blog about. The 1,382 make believe friends... don't get me started).
Then there are the great friends I met when my kids started school. Some I know will be seasonal and I may not see them as much as my kids graduate high school. Many I will see several times at gatherings different times of year. Then there will be my revolving core. You know of course, this is all my crazy-over-analyzing-ADD-mentally-put-it-all-in-order-way to break it all down, so I can wrap my brain around it. Truth of the matter is Life Happens and I am blessed with so many aquantiances and wonderful friends.
I will have to learn to adapt to the changes around me (This includes the mid life hormonal temporary crabbers). Unfortunately some of us age and get pickier, crabbier and more opinionated. Others realize it's in God's hands and roll with the positive punches and give up the unsolicited advice. Then there are changes that are circumstantial. We may move, we may travel more, we may meet parents at our kids colleges that we can't live without. I think I will just focus on being a good friend to ALL as Mid Life engulfs me. Chances are the rewards of doing that may be more than even I can logistically compartmentalize.
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...