<![CDATA[lindo notes - Blog]]>Thu, 27 Jul 2017 11:53:32 -0600Weebly<![CDATA[Visit My New Blog Site Starting 2016]]>Wed, 13 Jan 2016 13:48:45 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2016/01/visit-my-new-blog-site-starting-2016.htmlMatuschka's Midlife Mayhem]]><![CDATA[Revisiting TO EAT OR NOT TO EAT HOLIDAY FARE...]]>Wed, 23 Dec 2015 13:47:46 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/12/revisitingto-eat-or-not-to-eat-holiday-fare.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

The parties, the office goodies, the girls happy hours... come on it's the Holidays. I mean, you only live once. We deserve to have a good time and let our hair down. What's a few drinks? It's Christmas time... we are celebrating! The odds are against us anyway, statistics show during the holidays we are going to gain a few pounds right? So, we can take it off in January no worries! 
STOP!  STOP! STOP! I don't know about you? But this is the crap I have been telling myself for years. I give myself permission to overindulge. I actually encourage myself to do it and my friends! We all back each other up in this pursuit of holiday binging. I'm tired of doing this. It's NEVER worth it and nothing ever tastes as good as fitting into my clothes. Let's stop saying this crap to ourselves. We are 40 something and over. Ohhhh we pack it on during the holidays and it won't come off overnight no matter how much you wish it away. And I don't know about all of you... but I am getting shorter as I get older dammit and at midlife it's like pulling teeth to get even five pounds off. So let's look at this with a True Midlife New Lifestyle Mentality!

First, let's start with the mind games. We don't deserve to eat or drink whatever. Our bodies are breaking down and it can no longer handle the quick fix of January weight loss. It's time for tough love. Don't wait to diet or start eating healthy. Do it NOW! That way when you do fall of your regiment and have that cookie, extra serving, or great cocktail, you will not be adding to an already caloric day. This way you can maintain over the holidays instead of doing damage and EAT EXTRA CLEAN come January. Sugaring down after weeks of eating bad is a painful detox for the midlife body. I recommend picking your poison. If I am going to a holiday party I plan what my body is craving and what my cheat will be. For the record it's usually alcohol for me! (sad but true) Pie vs. Manhattan = Manhattan, Bread vs. Cabernet = Cab, Baked Macaroni & Cheese vs. Dirty Martini = Goose wins! But those are my choices. You need to make yours. The key is to choose and not do it all. You can't do the glass of wine, the mac & cheese and the pie. Not even for one night. It takes days to work that off and hit ground zero at midlife. If you choose alcohol like me then know your alcoholic calories. Yes, that alcoholic calorie counter can be depressing, but knowledge of food and drink is key at our age!

The really hard thing to throw into this holiday weight discipline mode is exercise. With work, taking care of household logistics, shopping, and entertaining... seriously who has time to work out. A friend of mine told me about Barre3 (Thank you Kristi). I don't have time to go to a gym right now, I am slammed. But if I can do a 10 minute workout using an app or my computer and it can help keep me toned and fit... count me in! They also have 30 minute and 50 minute work outs. All I am saying is put your mind in a positive place. You are worth more than any cookie, carb, or drink. When you tell yourself you are worth it and that you have the will power to walk away, you will start to believe it. If you are like me... you told yourself all that junk in the first paragraph for years. Therefore it will take time, be kind to yourself when you slip up. Midlife is a time to take care of yourself. Treat yourself the way you treat others. Enjoy your holidays and leave every event full of confidence instead of food! I'm struggling right there with you don't worry, we can do this!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...

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<![CDATA[My Christmas Vent ]]>Wed, 16 Dec 2015 12:56:51 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/12/my-christmas-vent.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

I am in such a good mood this time of year. For the most part Christmas makes me happy, excited and so thankful for my family and friends. For the most part... Then every year there are some jack asses out there that just make me want to scream. Why? Why am I even surprised at the rudeness and inconsiderate actions of others is beyond me. Seriously, nothing surprises me anymore. I think I just tend to let down my guard at Christmas time. Is it just me? Or are these some of your top 10 Christmas Pet Peeves!
Let me do the honors and vent them for us.

1. When there is a jammed packed full parking lot and the person walks to their car and gets in, knowing there are people waiting for that spot. And they know because you were stalking them for the spot. Then get into the vehicle and your blinker is on and ready. Then after they start the car, they deicide to also light a cigarette, check their phone and do whatever the hell else they need to do before pulling out. Let me  be clear here on what I am thinking when someone does this... I am wishing I had a battering ram on the front of my car.

2. The busiest shopping time of the year is not the time to have your supper at the fricking deli counter. Nor is it a time to see if your toddler wants to weigh in on what type of meat you should get by getting a sample for yourself then offering every sample to your toddler and asking them what they think as 5-7 people are waiting with numbers in their hand. Know that if you choke on a bite we will be thinking it serves you right.

3. At the post office don't pull a number if your packages aren't wrapped, addressed and ready. When you pull a number it means you are ready. Not almost ready. It's not a hold your place in line until I get my package ready number. That is not how it works. Give your ticket away and get another until you are ready, or better yet don't pull a damn ticket until you are ready.

4. When a store is about to close and you see they have locked the doors. Get your shit and get ready to check out. That's not the time to head to the dressing room or ask for gift wrapping. NO Closed means they are done working and that includes waiting on another customer. It doesn't mean walk around and mess up a few more items. That includes unfolding a sweater, or moving a hanger that has already been methodically spaced for closing. It means pack up, walk out, and start again tomorrow.

5. One of my biggest pet peeves here! It's not the time to be politically correct.(Not sure there is ever a time to not just say it like it is) It's Christmas. If you celebrate another holiday fine, I respect that, but it doesn't mean I have to water mine down. I'm not a Happy Holidays person. What does that mean anyway? Is that a trifecta of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years in one? Am I abbreviating to get them all covered in one word. When it's Thanksgiving I say Happy Thanksgiving not Happy Holidays. When it's Fourth of July I say Happy Fourth of July. Would you not look at me like I was a moron October 31st if I said Trick or Treat Happy Holidays. Ya it sounds stupid because it is! It's called Happy Halloween right? No math or science involved here we are celebrating the birth of Jesus, It's his birthday and the name of the party is Christmas. So, It's Merry Christmas because that is what it is in December. That means it's Christmas not some random holiday. You can call it whatever you are celebrating doesn't change my party. Enough with that crap.

6. I have to go back to the parking lot. A parking lot is just a haven for war during the holidays. Okay, let's be honest... you know who got there first when someone is puling out. Don't give me that dumb look like, "Oh wait where you here first?" You know I was there before you so don't even play dumb. Because I won't hesitate to call you out on it and embarrass you out loud. I will wait for you to get out of the car to correct the injustice. As I have noticed a plethora of people doing just that. You deserve to be reprimanded publicly if you steal a parking spot. Seriously grow up! 

7. Respect the elderly. That means in heavy traffic, be forgiving don't lay on your horn. In parking lots give them your space. Be patient when they are checking out. Think of how stressful it is to be out in malls and grocery stores this time of year. Add some age and fragility to that and step back and know that what goes around comes around. If anything offer to help, if they look lost take them to where they need to be. It's really easy this time of year, it's called kindness people. It can go a long way.

The last three are more annoying than rude. But still pet peeves for me! 

8. I know I am going to make some people mad here and I am so sorry. Really I don't want to be knocked off your Christmas list, but I do profess to be honest in my blogs. Ahhh you know those Christmas cards... those Christmas cards that you open and they have that long letter in there. That long letter about everything your family did through out the year... Ugh I think those should only go to family or out of town friends. They are kinda painful. I'm sorry. I will probably regret this when I am older and dying to hear about everyones family. Felling bad now...  I won't say anymore about it. Don't be mad. Maybe shorten to like 2 sentences.

9. I too leave my Christmas ornaments up way past Christmas as we celebrate the Epiphany on January 6th. But when I drive by your house in February and you still have your Christmas lights up and on...  this Griswold Family is just unacceptable. 

10. My final irritant is blow up Christmas decorations. I will say one is passable. I get one santa or one snowman scene. I just don't get throwing 20 of them onto your front lawn, How is that supposed to be more festive and bring on that holiday spirit. More lights I get more inflatables ahhh no. I mean if you did a poll, I know people drive around to look at all the lights on homes. There is something great about listening to Christmas music in your car and driving through neighborhoods to see all the lights. I will not believe you if you tell me the house with all the inflatables gives you that same feeling. It might.... I just won't believe you.

I feel much better now getting that off my chest. Again, the last three are my own problem not really a vent. My true request is this: Just try to be considerate during the Christmas season. We are all in a hurry and we all have long to do lists. When you are kind it's amazing what the parking gods will do. Try it!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Above images from www.thecluttershop.com

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<![CDATA[Unmotivated to Dress Up- Is It Bad?]]>Wed, 09 Dec 2015 13:32:46 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/12/unmotivated-to-dress-up-is-it-bad.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

I am asking this question to myself more than to anyone else. I am falling into what I believe is a sad state of mind. That unmotivated feeling of not wanting to dress up when I go out. I'm asking myself... am I tired, do I not fit into anything fun, am I getting lazy, or am I just so selfish and wrapped up into how I feel that I am not even thinking about the event I am going too? Hmmm truthfully I think it might be a little of all of the above. I really notice it during the Holidays. I am so blessed to be invited to parties, events and to attend shows. What is my number one thought right before I go. "Do I have to wear a dress? Do I have to dress up? To reinforce my selfish behavior I also call a friend. "Hey, are you dressing up for this or wearing jeans?" How I went from a dress to jeans in less than five minutes is beyond me? But if I were to be honest that is really how it goes. I mean... I do like dressing up. And I don't think twice about it if it's a formal invitation. But when it's my choice like going to a restaurant, a house party, sadly even church. I fear, I think of how I feel and what mood I am in, instead of respecting the people or place I am attending. Is it wrong? I don't know is my answer. Here are some easy Holiday ideas that make dressing up simple. Key item the little black dress.

In general, society has become more casual. For me personally, I think I have gotten comfortable in my own skin. Making it okay with me to throw on a cute t-shirt and jeans and go out to eat. There is something nice about being midlife and finally saying, "Hey this is who I am and I'm good with it and to hell with you if you are not." Don't get me wrong. I don't schlep around looking like a mess. I still have on make-up, do my hair and wear my jewelry. I'm just not sporting the heels, or the dress, or suit. But I think there is a fine line. Every time I watch a show like Downton Abbey I thank the Lord above we don't have to dress up like that anymore 24/7. It's exhausting to even watch them getting dressed or re-dressing just for dinner. But when I watch that show I see some elegance that we are missing today. I say we and I truly mean me included. In many ways we have lost a respect for the person hosting us. Whether it be a house party, a wedding, going to a restaurant or going to church. And that my midlife friends, is selfishly sad. Think about it? You've planned a great Christmas Party on a Friday night. You have cleaned, had it catered and you have given it 100% for weeks. How would you feel if you knew all your guests are dreading this party as they get off work on Friday and they are tired. They are thinking, like I would be... Oh can I just go slip on something more casual then head out. I'll feel much better. Are we right to dress how we want here? Or should we be respecting the efforts of the hostess and what she would like to see walking through her doors for her grand Christmas Party? Thoughts? By the way let me clear your head so you can focus on my blog. The final season of Downton Abbey starts January 3, 2016 on PBS. Yes, that's only 25 days from today. Now pay attention to my blog and think about my question!

Are we becoming more selfish and egocentric? I mean sit back and look around the next few days. It's not just parties it's everywhere. Work, meetings, I can't even think about how inappropriate people are dressed for travel. I think there is no going back there. That is just a hot mess. No wonder Lululemon is jammed pack. That is now everyday clothing for ALL sizes. Oye'! I am not writing this blog to judge, because I am just as guilty on many facets here. No, I don't wear work out wear to travel but I have been dressing down in places I really should consider the circumstances, because I am more focused on me and how I feel. I have no answers today. I just wanted to provoke some thought. Personally, I hope I snap out of this phase. It's nice to dress up and and be well put together while out in public. I found a great article that kind of answers the question of Why we don't dress up anymore? It really made me reconsider my behavior. The author ends by saying she believes something has been lost in our world today of how we present ourselves, and that to regain it we must first reclaim a sense of gratitude. You aren't being honest with yourself it it doesn't make you think about it just a little.

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
above image by fancyfrugalfit.com

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<![CDATA[I Can't Help It That I Don't Have Them!]]>Wed, 02 Dec 2015 13:12:30 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/12/i-cant-help-it-that-i-dont-have-them.htmlPicture

by Matuschka Lindo

WRINKLES, also known as a rhytides, are folds, ridges or creases in the skin. I am sorry but I don't have many of these. Just not one of the major problems for women with color. Don't worry we have plenty of other problems. Wrinkles just aren't one of them. But since I have a slew of readers who complain that I have not written about wrinkles. I say ask and you shall receive! The main reason black skin does not wrinkle as fast is because of what gives us our color Melanin. It protects our skin. The lighter you are the more likely you will wrinkle. Doctors say Melanin also acts as a sunscreen and protects the skin from ultraviolet light. But hey, we have really dry skin does that make you feel better? Probably not because it doesn't make us look older, just ashy. Okay, let's talk wrinkles my Fair Ladies. The main way to figure out how bad you will wrinkle is to look at your family tree. According to studies a lot of it starts with genetics so that's the first part. But yes, habits and behaviors increase the risk of wrinkles. Click HERE to read more about how UV Rays, Smoking, Facial Expressions, Dieting, and the way you Sleep contribute to those lines on your face.

Probably nothing surprising in the article above. Those are all pretty well known causes for wrinkles. My thoughts, the real way to deal with wrinkles is to try to embrace them. I know, I know, easy for me to say... I am trying to be compassionate. Maybe that's not what you want to hear yet. I'll try another route. I mean, you aren't going to get rid of them all together. You can prevent some from coming, and you can try to reduce what you have, that's the bottom line. Pretty doubtful there is a miracle cream that provides "real results". If there were I would not be writing this blog ladies. You can walk into any drugstore and there is nothing but empty promises everywhere to get rid of wrinkles. It really just comes down to taking care of yourself and treating your skin with lots of TLC. I loved this WebMD feature article on 23 ways to reduce wrinkles - starting now!

I will tell you a secret though, black women are not the only ones that do not wrinkle. The culture of eating lots of tofu, soy and rice have many Japanese women sporting beautiful wrinkle free porcelain skin. According to MORE magazine they one up everyone by also living longer than women of other cultures. After reading the article you will realize you don't have to live in Japan to age beautifully and wrinkle free. You just have to do what the article says... steal some of their diet, lifestyle and skin care strategies. In closing, I am of the belief that you don't have to be wrinkle free to be beautiful. Coming from the woman who may not have many wrinkles, let me tell you what I see when I look at some of the amazing women I know that have a few wrinkles. I see beautiful laugh lines when we laugh together. I also see the history of their expressions that I have learned to love. Take them away and I would miss the lines of your distinct life experiences etched in your unique features that make you the beautiful women you are. Before you invest thousands of dollars in getting rid of the wrinkles, maybe look in the mirror one more time and see if you can see the beauty that I see... The beauty that shares lines from many generations of all the women you love in your family. My advice, embrace it and love it! 

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Above image by BT.com

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<![CDATA[Revisiting The rEtiring HOLIDAY SUPER HERO ]]>Tue, 24 Nov 2015 12:42:16 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/11/revisiting-the-retiring-holiday-super-hero.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

There is something nice about having your teenage daughter set the Thanksgiving table, and your teenage son vacuum the entire house, and everyone helping to make the traditional family holidays special. The Christmas decorations went up in an hour this year with everyone unloading and unpacking and me just arranging. Commercials for Black Friday are everywhere as I lay in bed and drink my coffee until about 10:00am watching the news and not worrying about a shopping list. I haven't seen the inside of a classroom on a holiday in years. No treats to take or activity to help with. Welcome to the land of Midlife Holiday Magic. That to do list bubble of holiday activities finally bursts when your kids hit the teen years. As your kids get older its the perfect opportunity to create saner simpler holidays. They know you are "santa". They don't need the latest greatest Elmo where there are only 1,000 made. They don't need the tallest tree or to bake every cookie recipe or to clean out and carve pumpkins. Wipe your brow, get off the hamster wheel and put the super hero cape away. We did it! They have great memories and traditions to pass on. Let go of the chaos and focus on new rules, roles and overall holiday expectations with adult children.

Yes, there is that nostalgic part of you that misses the excitement of those little chubby faces running down the stairs at five in the morning to see if "santa" came. But let me rewind the entire holiday rat race for you starting with Halloween. Franticly searching for the last minute costumes for the costume parade. Buying pumpkins and carving kits that don't even frickin' work. Cleaning out the pumpkin slime and breaking every nail. Sweating over a turkey, stuffing, and mashed potatoes so you can hear them all whine how they don't like this icky food. You slaved over thanksgiving dinner and all they really want is kraft macaroni and cheese from the blue box. Throw in the damn pilgrim or indian costume for the thanksgiving feast at school. Then let's not forget about the top ten list of gifts that they want and all over the news all you hear is limited edition, or only a handful made. So what do we do... we go form a line to get that must have toy at the crack of dawn or if we can afford it way pay triple the price online. Then on Christmas day we watch them open that toy to the complaint of it being the wrong color or that it was Laa Laa not Dipsy that was their favorite. Hold on let's back up... What the hell were we thinking letting our kids watch Teletubbies. What the hell was that show? How did we fall for a show where the sun cooed, these stuffed martian looking oversized characters all just giggled and the only word I can recall was Eh-Oh! I must have been sleep deprived to let my children watch this or stoned. WTH!!! Yes, much of it will be missed, (kinda-sorta-maybe-not) but at midlife it may be time to let certain traditions go and make room for new ones. Here are some meaningful holiday traditions you can incorporate if you never had a chance to create some or if you need some new ones to experience with older children in the house.

Gifts... this is also a nice transition now that the real "santa" is exposed and accepting credit where credit is due. I also believe it all happens with the Grace of God, so we can't take all the credit. It's nice to get them what they need and surprise them with a thing or two. Need help? Here's a great 2015 gift guide for teenagers. Now, the joy is shopping with them and throwing in a lunch or a dinner for great quality time. The smile and excitement are still there... maybe not from chubby cheeks running down stairs. But from shaven faces with chiseled features or glossed lips with twinkling eyes sporting mascara. The children are older but they still have a way of expressing their joy and your heart still melts at the sight. You see... the Miracle of Midlife Holidays is that the gift comes full circle. The memories outlast and survive all the material stuff. No amount of commercialization can tarnish the holidays at midlife. We ran that race already and even though we fell for a lot of it, the family traditions ran a steady pace along side all the hype. In the end the family and the spirit of the season are all that's left. It's a beautiful thing! We are Blessed.

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
*Above photo courtesy of iStock

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<![CDATA[Téigh le Dia mo chara na hÉireann]]>Wed, 18 Nov 2015 12:48:48 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/11/tigh-le-dia-mo-chara-na-hireann.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

Sure hope this blog makes sense as I've had a rough week losing another friend. My last male friend taken at only 54 years of age. Don't get me wrong my very best friend and partner in life will always be my dear husband Malcolm. Science says it's impossible for men and women to just be friends and for the most part I agree. I am not one who really thinks a married woman should have a male friend. But I met Sean O'Brien when I was 22 years old, (before we even met our spouses) and damn I just could never get rid of him! HA! I set him up with so many college friends when we first met. Then my husband realized even after we got married that Sean was going to be the one male friend that wasn't going to drop off. But he also knew we never had a relationship, we were always just buds. (Thanks for putting up with us Malcolm and for trusting that you are my true love!) Sean and I were wild when we were single with no direction and usually up to mischief. When we each got married our friendship changed as it should... it found direction and evolved as we guided each other along the way sharing notes on how to tackle the bumps in the road that came up throughout the years. We had two meeting spots Carmelite Monastery or a local coffee shop. That's where we laughed, prayed and tried to navigate the compass of our lives. The talks were raw, the friendship was true and the navigation not always easy. The last five years the hardest of them all. Alas my Irish friend you no longer have to fight... you may now rest. God has put you on a course for eternal peace. 

Oh my (deep breathe) friendship at midlife is hard. I feel like we are in the midst of adjusting to changes in our lives so there's no room for patience because the changes aren't pretty. We definitely don't have any time left for mean girls! Bye Bye Bitches! But really, midlife gets weird because your friends are a range of ages and stages... not like when you were in high school. Some are empty nesters they are doing new things working on redefining their relationships and families. Others are welcoming grandkids and traveling more to see them. Yet others are picking up and moving cities all together. So begins the friendship shift. Nothing intentional just life in motion. Throw in the lost of a few good friends and your world becomes a little more fragile. There are many other reasons that cause friendship loss at midlife. I've said it before, I believe we all get a little more selfish as we age, because time is precious. We start becoming very particular with who we want to spend time with... not to mention we start cherishing more alone time.

Studies show for women in general it is very important to have good female friends. One article I found says that we need friends in midlife more than ever! The studies also say surface friends aren't enough... we need true friends. It helps us through stress and with all that we have to deal with as we grow older. Down sizing into new neighborhoods with new people and new changes. No longer having kids and school or sports activities, to help us not only make friends, but plan our weekends. Dealing with aging parents, retirement, and health issues. It's a lot to swallow and a heavy cross to carry alone. I am so blessed to have True Female Friends. Friends who help me carry my cross, pick up the pieces, celebrate tragedies and victories. Maybe that's why it's just so hard for me when a friend is taken away. As I said it's been a tough year. The big guy upstairs has taken some good ones. Maybe it means I have new friends coming? Maybe my job is to spend more time with the ones I still have? I can honestly say that being a good friend isn't always easy. But to have a good friend you must be one, and taking the time to nurture a friendship is worth every bit of work it takes. This Thanksgiving I thank God for every one of my friends. The ones who have passed and the ones who are still here to celebrate life. May God keep you all in his special care until he brings us together again. Téigh le Dia mo chara na hÉireann- Go with God my Irish Friend~

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...

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<![CDATA[Getting Clumsier? Uh Oh]]>Wed, 11 Nov 2015 13:38:12 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/11/getting-clumsier-uh-oh.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

I think I mentioned that I tore three ligaments in my right ankle over the summer. I was in a cast for several weeks, then I moved into a boot for several more weeks and then finally I was in a brace for many more weeks. Needless to say it was miserable. All because I was pulling a box and stepping back and I rolled my foot while in tennis shoes. I chalked it up to just bad luck. Fast forward to about, oh say a few weeks ago. It's the end of the day and I am exhausted like everyone else. I run to get a pedicure and forgot to take my own flip flops. Therefore I have to borrow those rubber flimsy makeshift ones you get from the salon. It starts raining outside... (right about now everyone's imaginations are creating their own scenario, give it up this one is unimaginable.) I walk out of the salon with pretty toes and luckily my car is parked close, right in front of the salon. I take one step down the curb and yes, I go flying and I fall HARD! My Right foot that just got healed folds under and that knee hits the ground. My big toe is the only one that curled under as my fat arse lands on my foot as I hit the ground with a thud. (The above picture is EXACTLY how I landed just different foot and I am not kidding) No getting up graceful here I am in excruciating pain. There is blood all over the knee, the toe has blood all over it not to mention the damn gravel and dirt now in-bedded in my Lincoln Park After Dark favorite polish! First concern, go back and get polish re done. Second, how am I going to drive home as my foot and toe are throbbing.  To wrap this saga up I'll just end with an X-ray and MRI later I have a torn ligament in my right big toe with fluid in it and it hurts like HELL! Which got me to thinking, is clumsiness part of getting older?

How embarrassed am I to have to put another boot on. One friend thinks I need to be wrapped in bubble wrap. I'm not sure I believe at 40 something my brain has already started changing into that elderly category. It could just be that I am a little clumsy or that I need to slow down. Then again, I am not really been accident prone person. All of my injuries from before have come from a sport, like cheer leading or tennis. Yes, cheer leading is a sport stop it! Other studies I have seen believe clumsiness can come with anxiety. The studies show that anxiety traits can trigger clumsy behavior.  Distracted thinking, shaky hands, sweaty palms, anxiety hesitation or over thinking. I don't really have anxiety I scored a 10 on the anxiety test, so that can't be the answer for me. How about you? Do you have anxiety? You can take a test to see how severe your anxiety is by CLICKING HERE.

I think clumsiness is just a part of life... yes you may get clumsier as you get older but sometimes you just have a couple of bad episodes. Here are some tips to help with clumsiness.  But even these tips aren't going to prevent you from falling or dropping things all the time. I wear gloves when I do dishes and I still drop a plate or two. I think I am at the age where I just have a lot on my mind. My kids are out late, one is away. There is a lot going on and I worry. That is probably my biggest problem. Not age, not anxiety, not even clumsiness just plain old worry. My mind wanders as I worry about all of those I love so much and they are so many of you. I can't stop the worrying. And with the worrying comes lapses in my mind while I am doing chores and yes just walking to the car. Who knows what I was thinking about when I stepped off that curb. I am sure my mind was way past my pretty toes and on to the next thing I needed to do. Probably what the hell was I going to cook for dinner?

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...

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<![CDATA[Pre-Midlife... What I don't Miss]]>Wed, 04 Nov 2015 11:45:20 GMThttp://lindonotes.com/1/post/2015/11/pre-midlife-what-i-dont-miss.htmlPicture
by Matuschka Lindo

I am in a dressing room on a Friday night trying on some jeans. Next to me I hear a mom begging... I mean begging. "Please, Please just give mommy five minutes to try on a dress for daddy's party." There must be three kids in there whining that they are tired, asking why she needs a new dress and finally the reason this scenario is taking place. "Mommy when does daddy's plane come back."
There I was with my Starbucks decaf coffee (it was 6:30pm can't do caffeine) relaxing and calmly trying on jeans. I was on my own time getting ready to head home to switch clothes then go out and grab dinner. Remembering so well my pre midlife days of little ones as I listened to the frustration of the mother in the dressing room next to me. Time moved so much slower back then when my kiddos were toddlers. I only wore uniforms of khaki pants or jeans and a white or black top. I mean really, why invest in clothes when 9 times out of 10 I was going to find shit on me. Spit up, candy, ketchup, marker, the list is endless. Lack of time... not enough hours in the day to make everyone happy and still find time to take care of me. That is the #1 thing I do not miss. I still sometimes get overwhelmed with my families needs (actually more wants than needs) and forget to take care of myself, but it's easier to take care of the problem now with young adults. With midlife comes more 'me' time. If I am going to be honest, I have to admit I love more 'me' time. Here are thirteen ways to take care of yourself!

The mounds and mounds of laundry I do not miss. I still get it occasionally when everyone is home. But no one plays a million sports anymore so there aren't multiple showers being taken with multiple outfits for the day. Thank you Lord as I hate doing laundry especially whites. Come to think of it... I hardly have any whites now. What the hell happened to all the white stuff? Odd! The dishwasher runs maybe twice a week now. I don't miss getting dinner ready and right when I need to set the table every damn thing is still in the dirty dishwasher that No One bothered to start. Nope I don't have enough dishes to even really fill it anymore. We run it half full, just because... I guess? We really never have all the plates in there anymore. But sitting at the table eating dinner without the full crew, that is an ache I am still working through. Needless to say the less laundry and dishes helps trump the pain. Cooking for two isn't bad... even though our daughter is only a senior her activities keep her from the dinner table 4 nights of the week. With the final one getting ready to leave the nest I keep comparing the new freedom that is so close to the departure of full time motherhood. Not saying one is better than another, just noticing there are things I don't miss... quite a few actually.

Parent Teacher conferences, thank you for all you do but that was like speed dating for my children hated it! Homework hours and hours... enough said there. Makes me vomit just thinking of them struggling or crying at the table. Weekends booked with activities from the crack of dawn until sunset. I loved it when I did it. It was fun and I enjoyed the camaraderie but I am over it now. I like a Saturday with a paper, magazine and a coffee. Is it wrong to not miss those jammed packed Saturday's? I think for everything there is a season... been there done that. Oh I am so close to a few things  that are winding down. After parties can't wait for that to be done with, along with sleep overs. My last spring break in some godforsaken Mexico destination... what is it about that? I have offered New York City, Paris anywhere and nothing works. I think parents should celebrate when the last senior spring break is checked off the list.  Jesus, Mary and Joseph that can't come soon enough. I would say in todays blog I hit pre mid-life and the beginning of mid life. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed every stage when I was in it, but the closing of some of those chapters... let's just say it's time. Here are some new opportunities to think of after the kids are gone. You don't have to love every stage. It's okay to admit there are things you can say good ridden too!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Above image by www.dailymail.co.uk

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by Matuschka Lindo

Never have, never will like Halloween. I don't like to be scared, I don't like to even think of witchcraft or evil, and I don't like to get dressed up in costumes. So, there should be no surprise that Halloween is one of my least favorite holidays. I can still smell that plastic mask I use to wear on my face as the rubber band tangled with my curly hair and my tongue would have small cuts since I used to stick it through the mouth slit of that damn mask. Oh... the memories are so awful. Even now I think I have carpel tunnel in my wrist from having to change the channel on the remote so quickly because while surfing what's on television, there is always some creepy or scary movie airing this time of year. To this day when I see those arms flailing and reaching through the window in the black and white classic of 'Night of The Living Dead' my skin crawls. Then I have some friends that love to fill bowls full of candy because they want to stay home and give out candy. They are so excited to see all the different costumes and hear the jokes from trick-or-treaters. I must be the Grinch of Halloween, because that sounds like bloody hell! Now let's talk costumes and dressing  up... Have you seen the halloween costumes for women. Where was I when Halloween became expose your breast day. Every costume for women is so scantily clad and boobalicious or skin tight. Ahhh no thank you. I don't want to be a Bar Wench, A Vixen Gypsy, A Burlesque Babe, or a Playful Bunny. It's tempting though isn't it? Hardly, enough! I am almost 50 years old this blog is going to be about what the hell we can do to enjoy October 31st if you are a Halloween hater like me. At least let me direct you to a website with some empowering costumes for women if you do love getting all dressed up.

#1 Choice for non Halloween lovers, start getting ready for the real holidays to make the next couple of weeks less hectic. Great night to plan how you want to do your turkey. Fry, Bake, Smoke or Order from somewhere. Start planning that meal and what you are going to do for Turkey Day. Here are 101 Thanksgiving recipes along with ideas, many are real simple. Get that Christmas card ordered and behind you, you can get 60% off some Christmas Cards on Optimal Print website through October 31. You can also do what I did last year...  I shopped. The stores are empty, the money you didn't spend on a costume is now in your pocket for some holiday outfits. SCORE! Lastly, this is one of my favorites. Go to the store on Halloween day and buy your favorite halloween candy at a bargain sale price and make the most delicious recipes from HERE! Great desserts made with leftover halloween candy! YUMMY!

As I conclude my All Hallows' Eve Humbug I must let you know it is one of the worlds oldest holidays. There is some pretty interesting history to the day even if you don't like the trick or treat festivities. While October 31st is my least favorite day there is a positive side... anyone that has ever read a blog of mine knows that this time of year is my favorite season. Halloween is the kick off of fall favorites. Football, pumpkin flavored everything, piles of leaves and the start of throwing logs into fireplaces. It's BIG yummy sweaters with sweats and fuzzy socks. It's crisp air, comfy boots, winter wardrobes, and mugs of soup. A toast to Fall my friends... Salute!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Above picture by laura maxwell facebook page

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