Voice Over And Narration Services By Matuschka Lindo
Exactly! Now What? My son turned 18 on December 8. After all the celebrating, the gifts and the cake I laid in bed and thought to myself... wait a minute. This is huge. Not only for my teenager but for my husband and I. All of a sudden this rush of anxiety hit me and I thought to myself. We have not prepared him with exactly what it means to be 18 in the United States of America. This was not just another birthday. This was where the rope I was slowly trying to let go of between young adult and parent had just been severed. In 24 hours all of our lives had just changed whether we knew it or not, and we knew NOTHING!

As our children go through the early stages of life they tell us all the things we need to make sure we talk to them about. There are books everywhere on how to talk to your kids about sex. There are signs everywhere to talk to your kids about drugs and drinking. There are classes to talk about safety, self defense and drunk driving. But what about when your teenager becomes a young adult in the eyes of the law? I haven't had anyone come up and say hey, "Now that misdemeanor can land your kid in jail let him know." Why no one makes a big deal about the big talk when you turn 18 is beyond me. Talk about a major life change. They have reached the age of majority. Hello, isn't someone mailing us the Turning 18 survival guide for teenagers and adults? Well, they should.

I looked around at the different websites for turning 18 and poured over all the information like the obsessive mother that I am. The best information I found was on the California website. It had the most inclusive, eye catching, and informative brochure on turning 18. But since I live in Missouri I will share that one too, so you can know the particulars to this state.  Print the darn thing and force that 18 year old to read it ASAP. Read over it all, preferably with your young adult. It was eye opening for both of us.

My son's birthday was 2 weeks ago and I am just learning that he has 30 days to register with the National Selective Service if you are a male. What the hell is that? With all the college applications and forms we've been doing I thought forget it I'll wait until the new year. But wait not so fast... Fail to register in those 30 days and your teen faces a $250,000 fine and/or five years in jail plus the loss of student loans and any federal or state employment. Yikes, how was I supposed to know this? Let me do you a favor press here! Register Online it takes about 3 minutes!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Hot Flash
A sudden feeling of feverish heat, typically as a symptom of menopause. A feeling that can come when you think of decorating the house for Christmas, all the baking and cooking for family, and the mother in law that wants to show you how to do Christmas right.

This is where Midlife Mayhem becomes Sensible Simplicity. Remember when the kids were little and you went out of your way to plan the perfect Christmas. Many of us started in September thinking of our Christmas list, the perfect outfit to put our cute little kids in for the creative Christmas card. Lets not forget the added extra's to the Christmas gift giving and celebrating. St. Nick Day, The Epiphany, Gingerbread House making, Breakfast with Santa, Our Holiday Parties and the list goes on and on and on.

I don't know why it takes so long but by the time you hit mid life you say, "Wait a minute" Christmas is about all of us... the entire Family and that includes me. So you take a step back FINALLY, and say I have had enough of this self-inflicted stress. So unless our families want us to become the Grinch changes have to be made.

My Aha! moment that I no longer had to overdo it for Christmas came when we kidnapped the kids the day before Christmas five years ago, and took them to Disney World. There was no fancy dinner, we didn't all have to dress to the nines for Midnight Mass. The ridiculous spread of presents that caused me to shop for months and over spend just because it was on sale was instead wrapped into this trip. No baking was done and no in-laws or extended family were invited. This was the BEST Christmas for my family including me. Stress Free, filled with love and my family 24-7. No meetings, no work, just laughter and smiles and the magic of Christmas (and Disney) in my kids eyes.

We got off the plane at 8:00am in Orlando in jeans and sweatshirts. We checked into the hotel then raced to the rides. We spent the entire day in all the different parks. The Castle was covered in Lights... I thought... Thank You Walt for decorating for me this Christmas! At the stroke of 11:30pm we raced out of the park. We quickly found a driver and in our casual garb raced to Mary Queen of The Universe for Midnight Mass, thinking there would probably be a handful of people there. What a surprise when we saw the hundreds of people spilling out of the doors and outside. We had to sit on the floor next to some people from London, Ireland, Milan, and Texas.

It was the best homily I had ever heard. And we were sharing it with HUNDREDS of people from all over the world that shared the true meaning of Christmas. The kids were laying on our laps on the floor exhausted and happy. I was leaning against my husband thinking all I did was buy some tickets, use some miles and hotel points, and it was the most relaxing and meaningful Christmas I ever had. It was truly possible to have a great Christmas without all the preconceived notions of what everyone needed and the list of what I was supposed to do to make Christmas Perfect.

Really? Christmas will be okay without me cooking for 11 hours and baking? Well, yes I guess so. Everyone loved renting Christmas movies and ordering dinner by room service as we ate in bed, resting before hitting the parks again for all the Parades and Shows. Let go of The Holiday Hot-Flash Christmas. Good things really do come in small packages. Let there be peace at home and let it begin with YOU!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...