Last week I blogged about inspirational women and promised I would tell you about an event for St. Louis women on December 5th. I shared quotes and articles about women that inspire me. WHY? Because as one person stated... “We have INCREDIBLE women doing INCREDIBLE things in St. Louis, for St. Louis and for the world.” One of them whom you may know is Ellie Kemper
, best known for her role as Erin Hannon in the NBC series The Office. Ellie, who will be a highlight of the December 5th event, credits much of her success to her St. Louis roots.
On Thursday, December 5th, 2013 at PLUSH, TEDxGatewayArch will host an event for women called SISTERS. As the description reads: “Biological or not, sisters uplift us, challenge us, inspire Us, and help shape us.” You may be asking yourself: “What (or who?) is TED?” TED is a nonprofit devoted to “Ideas Worth Spreading” which started in 1984 as a conference to bring together people from three worlds: Technology, Entertainment, Design. Since then, its scope has become ever broader and it is exciting to have our own version here in St. Louis. The 18-minute energy-filled presentations feature thought-provoking ideas, artistic expressions, and emerging concepts.
I am honored to be the emcee of the TEDxGatewayArch Women’s Event on December 5th. Though the event is now sold out, the organizers (who are all volunteers) are working to make it possible for you to view the program online – and will provide all the details on the TEDxGatewayArch.org website.
As the holidays come bearing down, the brunt of the stress most often falls on women
. The expectations are always so high and the list so long. And heaven forbid we would ever want to disappoint and not have the perfect holiday! Is that even possible? Do something for yourself and a girlfriend, or a sister. Make this a night for yourselves to kick off the busy season. It will be the best gift you can give yourself!
Again, while the event is sold out, LIKE TEDxGatewayArch on Facebook (or watch for more information at www.tedxgatewayarch.org
) and get the latest news as soon as we get the broadcast (and post-event broadcast) details together. Be sure to mark your 2014 calendar for the first TEDxGatewayArch event of 2014 – taking place on January 11 at the Sheldon. Just can’t get enough TED? Check out TED.com, they make the best talks and performances from TED and partners available to the world, for free. More than 1500 TED Talks are now available, with more added each week.
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife
... Telling it like it is...
Inspiration can be a driving force in your life no matter what age you are. For women I think they are always trying to reinvent themselves
or to set a new goal for themselves. Not sure what the rule of thumb is for how many times you can try... but I think it's healthy. I believe you gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience that might be new. Basically, when you stop and look fear in the face and push forward it's empowering.
Looking for great words or great quotes helps me to make it through the day, week or month. It just depends on when the challenging occasion, tries to block my path. We are all stronger than we know. Sometimes we need inspirational messages to get us over the humps of our doubts. Think about what you want to achieve, even if its just getting out of bed to spread kindness. It's all relative... every hurdle, every goal, every dream, every accomplishment. Let's lean on each other and move forward together.
Below are some of my favorite quotes from inspirational women
. I hope they can transform your day, or mood or whatever state you may be in... to a better place.
“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.” - Katharine Hepburn
“A woman is like a tea bag – you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.” - Eleanor Roosevelt
“The way in which we think of ourselves has everything to do with how our world see us and how we see ourselves successfully acknowledged by the world.” - Arlene Rankin
“The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” - Ayn Rand
“If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.” - Oprah Winfrey
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” - Maya Angelou
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” - Helen KellerMy Favorite from Maya...I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. – Maya Angelou
Next week I will tell you about an inspirational event targeting women in Saint Louis where you can hear thought provoking presentations with amazing ideas. If you don't live in the area don't worry you won't miss out.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya! - Matuschka LindoMatuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
No one ever loves the hair they are born with, it's never curly enough, straight enough, blonde enough etc. Then comes that time in your life when you want the hair you were born with back... aka midlife. You want the original deal God gave you... but it's too late. You will need multiple products and appointments to even come close. And if you wish it back, be careful. Many times that wish is granted but it's coming back in all the wrong places. Hair in your 40's and beyond is a tangled mess.Let's start with the gray
. My family grays early so it was inevitable for me. I started henna rinses, highlights, and lowlights mid 20's. I have streaks of gray everywhere and I'm good with it, some of it peeks through my color. What I am not accepting is the other gray hairs that are quickly invading during midlife. Now here is where I get exasperated with my mother, grandmothers, aunts and all women older than me who have been tight lipped about graying. Maybe I just didn't think it through. When I went to the bathroom 4 years ago and saw this wiry gray thing in my nether region I completely flipped out. I just never dreamed I would go gray down there - What The Hell! I was in my early 40's! Isn't that something that should happen when I am say - 80? This new found gray threw me into the fetal position on my bed for about two days. I am the type that needs to be warned about things so I can prepare. No one ever told me. It makes sense now ya, but wow that's a blow to the ego. Really who knew?
Let me do you a favor of sorts and tell you where all you can plan on getting gray, besides your head. This way, when you see that wiry tinge of light color you won't be in a state of shock like I was. Your eyebrows, your underarms, your arms and legs, your eyelashes and of course down under. Here is a secret... you can get dye's from Betty
for the nether region area. They come in blonde, brown, black, auburn, hot pink, aqua blue, lilac and red. Just throwing it out there, the other option is a Full Brazillian or the Sphinx. Choices, choices, choices, I double dog dare you to go red!
Speaking of dogs, I feel like one. Let's talk about hair loss and unwanted hair. Its like I am molting year round. My pony tail holder now goes around 3 or 4 times instead of two. I used to have long thick hair that I hated. It drove me crazy and when it was humid outside I looked like Diana Ross in concert, in Central Park during a tornado. Oh how I would love to have that thick unmanageable hair again. Just never appreciated it. Don't know about the rest of you but not only am I losing a lot of hair, I'm not growing much in it's place. When you're esthetician tells you to go from 6 weeks to 12 for waxing it's a sad, sad, day.
Lastly the unwanted hair... listen, I am going to make this short and sweet to wrap up this blog. This really is a no brainer.
It's call the lone hair. You people know who you are... That one hair on your nipple, the bottom of you chin, or the back of your neck. I personally haven't had this problem yet, but I can tell you what all of us ladies are thinking. Get rid of that shit.
We are all asking ourselves should we tell her? Can I just pull it? If we see it, you must! Hey, it makes us uncomfortable! Pull it, tweeze it, do something. It's hard to look you in the eye and hold a conversation when you got that creepy hair sticking out in odd places. That's it... That's all I have to say about hair. Appreciate what you have, and celebrate it all. I can only assume when we start losing lots of hair in our mid 80's, we will be wishing we had a head full of gray!Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Personally I believe there is a big difference between your real age and the age you feel. Sitting at a lunch with friends last Friday then celebrating a 50th Birthday that evening, I looked around the tables and thought 50 isn't what is used to be. Every one of these ladies could have passed for 40 or younger. We live in a time where the products
, the knowledge and the technology are out there to help us groom ourselves to be perceived a younger age. Regardless of what your real age is, the range of perception hinges on your attitude, and how well you take care of yourself. Oh wait, let's not forget genes play a role also. A person is free to behave like someone 10 years younger or 10 years older. The good news is that with everyone living longer... you really aren't old until there is no margin for error in perception.
If we look at Gerontology
everyone that is under 70 complaining that they are old sound ridiculous. So stop acting like granny. Gerontology defines those 70 to 80 as "Young Old" 80 to 90 as "Old" and 90+ as "Old Old". Rethink this moaning and groaning and saying that you're old at 50... HOGWASH! Don't get me wrong, it's true "Senior Moments" begin mid 40's like my darn knees are aching as I write this, with the rain kicking in my arthritis. But that doesn't mean walk around thinking your OLD. It just means father time is getting a calling card ready or AARP card whatever you chose to call your card. A step towards maturity, not a time in your life to waste being age obsessed. Don't you see? This is all great news, 50 is now the new 35. Truly I doubt that the face in the mirror is the age any of us feel. So forget the number!
Yes, there will be some moments that kick you in the gut. For example, there is a boutique in Chicago I have always loved. I would buy a cute top or pair of pants, just some fun trendy stuff. Recently I walked in and looked around and thought son of a "B" there is really nothing appropriate for me to wear in here anymore... except maybe a head band. Unfortunately, I have friends that frown at me for wearing those. I shook it off and went to a store that was perfect for midlife fashion
- Bloomingdales, to lick my wounds. Then there is the flip side to that, which is one of my favorite lines from the movie "This is 40." When Debbie the character says, "I don't want to shop at old lady stores. I don't want to go to J. Jill and Chico's and Ann Taylor." Not that I think ALL those stores are old lady stores. But it is a funny line that rings true for many.
I look at my parents traveling the world carefree with less stress than ever. They are early to mid 70's "Young Old". They watch what they eat, they work out, and are always working with doctors to stay healthy and feel young. They pull pranks, act like they are about 55 and neither ever tell or discuss their age. My dad always answers when people ask his age, "Why does it matter?" He gets it... Age is a mind set, not a number. Until the guy upstairs call's your number appreciate the joys of maturity like dinner parties instead of night clubs.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...