by Matuschka Lindo
When I think of fall, I think of my feet. Yes... yes, I think of apple pie, football, crisp air and changing leaves; but I also think of feet and shoes. When do you make the switch from sandals and flip flops to boots? Some people strut out in boots the first day fall hits! Its gradual for me, I do flip flops as long as I can. Start moving into closed toe shoes and flats and then I give in and shove my feet into boots. Don't get me wrong, I love boots. It's just hard to go from wiggly toe freedom to sock and boot confinement. Buying new shoes with the change of seasons used to make me happy. Why? Because shoes are where I splurge and I go big and spend lots. Here are my justifying reasons and I'll go to the grave believing these three truths. 1. Your feet are your foundation. If you don't protect them with good shoes
you will pay for the pain/ugliness sooner rather than later! 2. No matter what your outfit costs or what designer you are wearing if your shoes are bad, the entire outfit is a total fail. 3. I invest in shoes because they are the only size on me that does not change. At least that used to be how it worked… until midlife. Why didn't you old bitches say something!
I mean come on! I know my girls are sagging, my hair is falling out, I'm getting a little wider. But I thought I could count on my feet to only take a slight hit. Early midlife they become dry and cracked as we lose moisture, knew that. No one ever warned that they would get BIGGER, FLATTER and WIDER! The foot is a complicated extension of our body. It contains 26 bones, 33 joints and more than 100 tendons, muscles and ligaments. That being said, and after a little research it looks like our feet are deteriorating like the rest of our body. I already have my grandparents and parents to thank for the bunions that are heading my way. I know it's coming, I'm starting to see slight changes. So much so, that I am already looking into surgery. I refuse to wait until my shoes hurt or worse don't fit. I love my shoes. Dammit dammit dammit! I thought just our ears and nose got bigger... Not really sure that is true? I'll look into that and blog about it later. Right now I'm distraught with the foot notes of Dr. Steven Pribut, a podiatrist at George Washington University Medical Center in Washington, D.C., who estimates that some people over the age of 40 can gain half a shoe size every 10 years. Among other horrid changes.
Some of you may not think this is disturbing but let me paint a picture for you. I'm 5'2 on a real good day. I used to be a 6.5 shoe size. I had two wonderful kids and now I am a 7.5. Is Dr. Pribut telling me by the time I'm 80 I'll be a 4'10 (because we know we're shrinking) old lady with size 10.5 shoes. Why don't my feet just start webbing too so I can use them as fins. Dammit dammit dammit. This news has just knocked me off of my fall feet. Mentally I am not ready to cross over from stylish designer brand shoes to orthopedic shoes. No not yet! NO NO NO! If they are going to get bigger, first let's look into taking care them. Remember they are our foundation. We may not be able to stop the size or shape. But we can definitely prevent various foot problems
that form due to neglect. Let's hold on to our fun, fabulous, stylish shoes as long as we can.
Here are some tips from the Healthy Geezer:
Properly fitted shoes are important to the health of your feet. The following are some pointers to remember when buying shoes:
• The uppers on shoes should be made of a soft material that can match the shape of your foot.
• Leather shoes reduce the possibility of skin irritations
• The best time to measure your feet is at the end of the day, when your feet are largest.
• Most of us have one foot that is larger than the other, so fit your shoe to your larger foot.
• Don't select shoes by the size marked inside the shoe but by how the shoe fits your foot.
• When fitting shoes, make sure there is about a half-inch extra space for your longest toe when you are standing.
• Make sure the ball of your foot fits comfortably into the widest part of the shoe.*Above Picture from Health & Wellness MagazineKeep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
by Matuschka Lindo
Have you looked at social media lately on Thursdays? You must, it's dreadfully funny! Whenever my midlife generation of friends and colleagues do a Throwback Thursday it goes straight to the 80's! Oh how we loved the 80's… Personally, I loved everything about it. I looked awful and I still loved it! Like most people I would go back in a heart beat! I think? Big hair, Blue sparkly eyeshadow, Bows in our hair, Bows around our neck, and more Bows around our waist. (Reflect on horrific Bow Dress in picture below) I even had blue contacts late 80's… SCARY! Let me state I had perfect vision and did not need contacts. They were purely cosmetic, and why not? High Fashion and Excess were pouring out of shows like Dallas and Dynasty. Seriously, who didn't want to be part of the Ewing family from Southfork or the Carringtons from the ritzy suburbs of Denver. (Are you humming the tunes for these prime time soap operas yet? They will be stuck in you head all day.) How could you even think of getting dressed without hairspray, shoulder pads, big earrings and leg warmers? Go grab a Bartles & Jaymes Wine Cooler and enjoy the 80 Greatest '80 Fashion Trends
! A moving nostalgic moment to say the least. My most favorite movies, songs, memories, television shows are all in the 80's. What makes this decade nostalgic? Our age maybe… will the 90's be nostalgic in 20 years? Were we all lost in the American Dream?
Many of the songs that we enjoyed from the 80's were REMAKES
… say it isn't so but yes. They sounded so much better with that 80's flavor! Don't worry it was also a creative and innovative generation, artists made some amazing hits that kids today are enjoying. I break out in song every now and then with my young adults in the car because this generation is REMAKING
the hell out of the 80's! Music and Movies also helped define our fashion more than ever back then. Gloves without fingers, thank you Madonna. Ray Bans, but of course after Risky Business, Ferris Bueller, and Miami Vice. No Thank you for the Parachute Pants MC Hammer! Heavens I hear they are back in style. I would not lie to you, here is a website selling them www.parachute-pants.com egads!
I can honestly say I leaned closer to preppy and worshiped Ralph Lauren! It was the era of the P's! If you weren't Preppy you were a Power Dresser or Punked Out with a Mohawk or a Mullet.
There was plenty of news in the 80's with the end of the Cold War! It was real news no sensationalism needed. USA Today.com has some great coverage
if you want to take a peek back. The beginning of the electronic age, VHS was introduced, gigantic cell phones were the rage, and the introduction of computers. There were so many things to love about the 80's… movies, celebrities, products, it never ends! Not to mention everyone's list is different because the decade was exploding with so much information and advancements. But there are also things of that decade we hope NEVER come back. For me it has to be neon colors. I just don't look good in neon! Oh wait, and those nasty jelly shoes made my feet sweat. Did I already mention parachute pants? I must say there was more to love than to hate. I know I always promote looking forward in life. Doesn't mean we have to forget the GOOD TIMES
! Keep the pics coming on Throwback Thursdays!Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
by Matuschka Lindo
Depending on what industry you are in, being an aging woman can mean demotion in the workforce. As a journalist, I know what it is like to be in the media's eye. Not sure if it's the consultants, the managers of the different networks, or if it is the viewer. But in this industry young and beautiful speaks volumes. I'm not saying these youngsters aren't talented. What I am saying is experience and wisdom doesn't hold its weight for a woman. While an older male counterpart can use his age to be identified as trustworthy and knowledgable. Let's just say men keep their media jobs a lot longer. I know this may not hold true in all careers or all companies. But I think this common mindset rears it's ugly head more often than people openly admit. Pam Oliver with Fox Sports
is the latest to feel the sting of this midlife backlash for working women.
Studies have shone a rise in middle age women leaving their careers behind, and not by choice. Demotion by a corporation isn't the only reason, but its high on the list. Forced circumstances involving family is another cause. No matter how successful you are as a woman, most will drop everything due to a sense of responsibility when it comes to family. We are smart, we are ambitious but we are also the nurturers. According to a recent article in The New York Times
; since the start of the recession, the number of working women 45 to 54 has dropped more than 3.5 percent. There are now about one million fewer women our age in the labor force than at their peak at the end of 2009. As I said before, there are a variety of reasons. Some believe at midlife we are too young to retire but too old to be competitive. Older children also bring about more multitasking and needed flexibility. Why, because nine times out of ten the logistics for the family also fall on the woman. At this age I know for me the key is flexibility. I am happy to work hard and get the job done as are most women.
The up side of this blog as I think about women like Pam Oliver and the majority of us. We can adapt better to change than any species out there. Oh yes, we will get our good cry in and curse everyone around us for a good 48 hours. (Who are we kidding a good week at least!) But then as women do… we pull it together. Get our game face on and do what needs to be done. Networking groups are getting better than ever for women of all ages. LinkedIn
provides great network opportunity events as well as Tedx
just to name a few. The midlife conundrum of having to start a new career or revamp an old one is becoming the norm, and not just for women. Join these social media sites and network groups to find out what you need to be competitive. They also help you share innovative ideas. Middle age can be the beginning of being who you really wanted to be in the first place. Change is hard but there is a great support group waiting for you.P.S. for women who will be in the St. Louis Area September 23, 2014, and have interests in Design. TEDX GatewayArch is featuring: Show Me Design. Listen to speakers discuss Design, Architecture, and Fashion. It will be a great women's networking event and could lead to your next career! CLICK HERE FOR TICKETS*Above picture from Evelyn Kalinosky's blog
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
by Matuschka Lindo
Let me start with the fact that I am a huge traveler. I grew up traveling extensively at a very young age. I have known my way around an airport since I was 3 flying on Pan Am. I was born with a passport and am very comfortable with travel. My husband has also traveled quite a bit and has also lived abroad. So what happens at midlife with that ease and carefree attitude about traveling? Oh, I know we are no longer as adventurous, and I know we need more comfortable lodgings as our bodies can no longer sleep on a floor or bad bed. But overnight I noticed that many of us… my husband included, are starting to get a little more up tight with travel as we age. Overall I think traveling is easier compared to the way we used to travel.
Recently we had to take our son to college. This required renting a car to load up all the stuff and driving one way over 12 hours. Then flying back home after three days of orientation and getting him settled in. I'm going to put it out there and say road-trips are not good for our marriage. I guess we don't do long road trips in the car. I think over 20 something years of marriage our max is usually 6 to 8 hour drives. He usually drove and that was it. At home he usually drives if we are going out for the evening. So when we switched for me to drive, I was in for a rude awakening. I don't now how I made it through 40-something years without him being my drivers ed coach. You're tailing, don't follow so close, don't clear the speedometer when you fill up, what's the speed limit… set cruise a few over, don't hang by this truck etc. I thought I was going to scratch his eyes out! Finally he fell asleep. It was amazing, we actually made it there with me behind the wheel. Seriously I could have slapped him! No more long road trips for us. Many people feel road trips are a good way to bond and engage with your spouse. We failed! Here are some marriage games to play on road trips
if you are stronger than us!
I guess I should have suspected travel would change as we age. Just never really thought that hard about it since we were great travelers. Our flight left at 6:55pm. I wanted to explore downtown and hang out until the last second possible. He felt better getting to the airport early. We got there at 3:00pm. WTH!!!! It was like I was traveling with my parents on the AARP tour. He also asked me a dozen times when does our flight leave? What difference did it make we were there? Not to mention I could have been rude and said there are monitors all over the place and you have your boarding pass just look! But, I could never be so cruel… I do love this aging newfound bad traveler. My rule of thumb is if you get to the airport and your gate posts two other departures for different cities before your flight … You got there too damn early! But he's not alone I have my issues too. I need to travel like I did when we had babies, with a purse full of goodies. Tylenol for headaches, Tums for when we eat the wrong thing, Bengay for aches. I also always have food. We both go crazy when hungry. He gets angry, I get headaches and light headed. He is allergic to fructose and corn syrup now, which also did not help on the long drive. Fast food would mean intense bathroom stops for us. (TMI I know) I need a cushy for airplane seats now. I just ache after a flight. Its like something is jabbing into my tailbone. We do still love to travel and we are getting close to that stage in our lives where traveling more will be easier (so to speak). Guess we have to pick our traveling routes and transportation carefully at midlife. Here are some tips to adapt to travel changes as we age.
Know your limits, your strengths and plan plan plan. I am happy to report we are still married and plan to travel again soon. *Above photo from asmithblog.comKeep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...