Voice Over And Narration Services By Matuschka Lindo
 
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by Matuschka Lindo

Thought this would be a great rewind  as I can't remember where I put a damn thing during our move! GRRRRRRR 
Memory and Focus... These words are trick questions for mid-lifers. Is it our imagination or can we not multitask as much? Personally my mind has been playing tricks on me for about five years now. I really should buy some shares in Post-it Notes! Those colorful pieces of paper are my navigation system for the day. It seems that my mental file cabinet is on recall overload! I ask myself am I going crazy? Do I need to slow down? There is always that fear of Alzheimer's. Here are my top three memory scares. 

1. I am driving home. A destination I can get to a variety of ways. I pass my exit and keep driving; until I am looking around thinking, where the hell am I and where was I going? Wasn't I on my way home? This is my all time freak out experience! It doesn't happen often, but even once a year is one time too many. I did read once that two Northwest Airline pilots missed the twin cities by 150 miles. Made me feel better... Wonder if they were female pilots in their mid 40's?
2. This one is soooo embarrassing. I am talking to someone, maybe my child's teacher during parent/teacher conferences and I am totally engaged in the conversation… Five minutes go by and I'm thinking whoops, I have no idea what you are saying since I just came back mentally? How do I drop out of a conversation so unintentionally and unwillingly? Where do our minds go? Is this normal?
3. I know I'm not alone! I predict the majority of you can feel my pain on this final brain fart. You are at home, you walk from one room to the next… then it happens! Yep! Hate that, don't you? The crazy question? What did I come in this room for.... Seconds ago we knew where we were going and why. We walked into that room with purpose and determination and poof just like that it's gone! I decided to go to therapist Ann Sullivan to get some answers about our midlife psyche.

So, there is some good news. This forgetfulness may not be forever! Along with Ann's advice on how life will slow down eventually for many of us, researchers now suggest that the middle aged mind preserves many of its youthful skills and even develops some new strengths! While memorization skills and perceptual speed both start to decline in young adulthood, studies now show that verbal abilities, spatial reasoning, simple math abilities and abstract reasoning skills all improve in middle age. Woohoo we're still in the game! Speaking of games there are so many brain games to help keep it all working efficiently up in your noggin. Believe it or not there is a website called Lumosity that basically provides a personal trainer for your brain. I don't know if I'm ready to work that hard to keep my brain up to par. I'm on beginner memory sliding level so a nice game of poker with a glass off goose on the rocks is a little more my speed. But hey I wanted to provide choices to you wiser older over achievers! Many of you out there are probably wondering if that damn game Candy Crush counts as a memory builder? Well, I think it's cockamamie but some say if you do the speed play version its great for the brain. Hmmmm as I said, "Deal and pass me my Vodka!" That's one saying I'll never forget!

By the way this mental mush includes men. I think it's selective memory that they have when it comes to their Mother-in-law's birthday, that dance recital  and the non action movie date night. Of course a recent study says their excuses for forgetting may be legit, regardless of their age. Meaning younger men forget as much as older men. Figures!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...


 
 
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by Matuschka Lindo

As I get closer to another birthday I am always looking around for positive stories or images of other women who are older and embracing their age. Recently I was in the windy city and I sat in a taxi cab looking out at all the different billboards and I was pleasantly surprised and inspired with all of the midlife women that I saw. Halle Berry was plastered all over a wall, not sure what she was selling but she looked fabulous at 48. From Cindy Crawford (49) to Lauren Hutton (71) forty and beyond seems to be a hot trend and I like it! The women look natural, they look strong and they are flaunting the new sexy, that midlife and beyond is marvelous. Makes me happy to be where I am in life and inspires me to continue to take good care of myself inside and out. The way I see it is if over 40 super models are still in the mainstream and all the rage. That means it's the rage for all of us, 40 is the new 20 and 50 must be the new 30! Wooohooo!

Inside and out... beauty should be timeless. You can have wrinkles and streaks of gray and still hold a beauty of your own. I know we all complain about the skin sagging around our knees or our crows feet around our eyes. But most of the time when I go out with all my girlfriends and I sit back and look around the table I think two things. One, how blessed I am to have such wonderful women to surround myself with and two, how uniquely beautiful we all are in our own way. I have small freckles on my cheek that seem to be getting bigger much to my dismay and a woman in the restroom at a restaurant told me she loved my angel kisses. Never heard of freckles called that before, but what a nice thing to say. I see them as a negative and someone else embraced them. Made me realize I needed to change my thinking. With Father Time comes some natural aging transformations we all need to accept. Don't get me wrong, I can't really say anything positive about the muffin top hanging over my jeans but the age spots forming on my hands I need to face. Yes it's a sign of aging but that doesn't mean it's bad. I guess we all have to draw the line on what we are going to accept and what we aren't. I can gladly give you the list of what I refuse to accept. Bunions, gray hair (until  the entire head is white), and jacked up teeth that move due to hormones. I draw the line at those three things. I don't care how vain it sounds. Here are some quick fixes to the nine worst signs of aging. As of now I am a NO for plastic surgery. But I guess you can never say never. 

The television medium is also bursting with power house middle aged women entertaining us and looking great at 40+. You gotta love it! What a great time to be middle aged. Some of my favorites are Mariska Hargitay (51) Sergeant Olivia Benson on Law and Order. Bridget Moynahan (44) Erin Reagan in Blue Bloods. My absolute favorite power house character is Julianna Margulies (48) as Alicia Florrik in The Good Wife. Then we have one of the funniest and entertaining women I know and she does not even come close to looking her age, Ellen Degeneres (57) on ELLEN! I bet if you stop and think of one of your favorite shows, chances are there is a midlife woman rocking her character. Please don't think reality show. In my opinion those are the worst looking women on television, regardless of their age. I am referring to true actresses, entertainers, journalists, & artists. It's a great time to be 40 something and beyond. We are so very lucky that these women are aging gracefully and proud of it, even in Hollywood. From beauty products, to clothing designers and the entertainment industry we are a generation that demands to stay fashionable and in the fore front. Don't count us out yet. As I tip ever so closely to 50 I believe the best is yet to come. Here are some fabulous actresses over 50. Many looking better than they ever have!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...

 
 
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by Matuschka Lindo

There is always one in the group that says after 25 years of marriage they are still going at it 3 to 4 times a week. That nothing has changed they still play spontaneously every and anywhere in the house. You know what I say to that... I call Bull Shit! Our bodies and lives are changing so much and with every change comes a little less energy. Pieces of who you used to be as an individual and as a couple are slipping away. You are dealing with the changes I discuss in so many of my blogs. Young adults leaving the house, job changes, life stresses of aging parents and the list goes on and on. Throwing sex into that cesspool becomes challenging even if you want to be the Latin Lover that you once were... odds are your body is screaming UNCLE! The real culprit to a lacking libido is twofold for both men and women. For women the testosterone has been on a slow decline since your twenties. Then with no warning at no precise time during midlife it plummets to just short of non existent. The second part is general health. When there is a lot of stress health can decline which means sex drive wanes. Loss of sexual desire is a women's biggest sexual problem... and it's not all in your head, says sex psychologist Sheryl Kingsberg, PhD.

Whenever you hear low sex drive you automatically think hormones and testosterone. As I stated above you also think of psychological reasons like stress and depression. But I wasn't joking when I said your general health also plays a really big part. There's health stuff you are familiar with like gluten intolerance or low and high blood sugar. But it could be stuff you aren't as familiar with like leaky gut (doesn't that sound just nasty) and adrenal fatigue. It all can contribute to lack of sexual desire. So remember your physical well being is a huge component when it comes to your sex drive. Don't dismiss it, even weight gain or the medicines you are prescribed to take for a variety of reasons can contribute to the lack for lust. Basically if you feel you're falling into a pattern of, "Not tonight babe I have a headache," and that is not your usual M.O. (mode of operation), get it checked out. If it is your usual M.O... I still say that's not normal, get it checked out! There is no reason to settle for a loss in sexual desire.

What I recommend focusing on with your partner in your midlife years is how to get that sex rush back! As we said before the person you used to be is changing as well as the partner you have with you. Time to explore the new people you have become and continue to evolve into. Put that energy into reinventing your sex life. Be honest with yourself. Doctors say you should ask yourself, “How do you want to re-create your relationship and enhance romance in your lives?” The answer will be different for everyone. Make sure you know what you want. Talk it over with your spouse then work on what it takes to make it happen. You are lying to yourself if you don't admit that sex is an important part of your life. I'm lucky I have a little help... my mother-in-law is a sex therapist. No joke! But let's be serious. I really can't talk to her about sex with her son GROSS! WAY AWKWARD! Really not sure if he has ever talked to his mom? I do know we are both aware that as our bodies age we have to adjust to maintain the madness of making love at midlife. Yes, sex at midlife is complicated, but there is no excuse for it not to be GREAT!

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...

 
 
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by Matuschka Lindo

This year my mother will be vacationing during Mother's Day. I was like wait! We do the brunch thing after mass, we kind of celebrate the day together with chocolates and flowers. It's sort of a tradition. What does she mean she is going on a wonderful vacation with my dad? Then it got me to thinking about how there are probably so many women out there who's moms have passed or are sick and how Mother's Day can bring an ache to the soul. I don't think there is ever an age that you don't need a mother to talk to, ask advice or to just lay your shoulder on. Mothers are there for you at significant times in your life. When you are born, that first boyfriend that broke you heart. (I still remember you... ass) Your wedding, to help with all your parenting advice, and so much more. My mother is a prayerful mother. That women has been on her knees for me more times than I can ever count. How do you say thank you to all that? You never forget! Whether she is with you now or not, you just never ever forget. I think Mother's Day is a day you always Honor your mother whether she is around or not. Honoring your Mother is a commandment in the eyes of God, as it should be. Here are some easy ways to honor her everyday.

The Mother child bond is so precious and is needed for true nurturing. I think in this busy stressful world the greatest gift we can give our children as mothers is to listen. In this world of social media and non stop chatter who listens to these stressed out kids. There time is so consumed it scares me. The one thing we try to do pretty consistently in our house which I learned from my mother is to eat meals together. Turn the outside world off and listen and talk and be there for them. They have enough stuff in life... just be the umbilical cord and try to stay connected. That's how you brought them into the world and I have a feeling that's how you keep them close to you. Mother's Day was invented in 1868 to reunite families who had been divided by the war.

The tradition has grown and flourished and is adopted in many parts of the world. Here are how other countries celebrate Mothers Day. I know that Mother's Day can be a painful day in so many ways. For the baby lost and the mother you wanted to be... to the mother passed and the mother you will never see again. As women we bring so much life to the world not just through birth. And we learn from so many women not just the mother who gave us birth. I hope you can find a woman out there to celebrate the gift of life and love. I have a woman named Mrs. Berrwanger that loves me like her own daughters and still calls me devotedly. I know so many kids that I love like my own. There are so many out there waiting to share the Blessings of Mother's Day. I hope you have a wonderful Mothers Day even if it just means remembering all the women in your life who made you the special person you are today.

Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!

Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...