A few weeks ago I asked people on Matuschka's Midlife Mayhem Facebook page to post topics they wanted me to write about. Nobody posted anything but several messaged me. I get that, you don't want people to connect you with a topic. That's what I am here for, so good idea. One of the subjects was dating at midlife. Many of my married friends are always saying. "Wow I would hate to be out there dating now." I say good for you! That most likely means you are in a good marriage and all is well. I have also been blessed with a good marriage of 20-something years so I had to do some research for this blog. What I found is that dating at midlife can be rather enjoyable. At this stage of your life you know yourself better and you know what you are after. Your attitude at midlife has completely changed, so use that to your advantage. You aren't just looking to hook up for happily ever after. You are now looking for a companion to enjoy your taste and midlife style. Either you liked what you had and want that type of person again or you can change it all up. Lisa Firestone an expert in psychology, writes a great article stating that by understanding our history, we can make a conscious effort to make different choices. Firestone believes there are great advantages to dating after 40!
An article by Christopher Ingraham in the Washington Post shows that divorce is actually on the rise and we can blame the Baby Boomers. The same people who increased the divorce rates in 1980 and 1990 when they were in their 20s and 30s are now in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. The Baby Boom generation apparently was responsible for the rise in marital instability after 1970. They are now middle-aged, and their pattern of high marital instability continues. But I am not here to point fingers. I am here to tell you what single people are doing to find love again at midlife. There is still the old fashioned way of connection by friends and family. Many still meet people on the job, or head out on the town for special nights to specific bars or restaurants. Social Media has made the number one dating place ONLINE! I know everyone has heard of online dating. Just not sure you realize how big it is? There are over 25-hundred sites in the United States and over 5-thousand worldwide. Here are the Top Ten Best ONLINE Dating Sites for 2014! If you are looking for something as specific as dating-bald-men, skinny-dating, or date-a-trekki you can zero in on your particular desire. I find this creepy to be so specific but hey, it's not about me! I do want to remind you that some opposites do attract in many cases. So open your mind to new experiences and new people. That hunk you went after in college was most likely an ass! Your midlife heart although maybe broken and hurt, is wiser and will heal to be stronger. Welcome an invitation to change.
Some not-so-surprising online dating statistics… A woman’s desirability online peaks at 21. At 26, Women have more online pursuers than men. By 48, Men have twice as many online pursuers as Women. Men lie most about; Age, Height, Income and Women lie most about: Weight, Physical Build, and Age. These statistics and more, like how many people get married from online dating? Can be found by CLICKING HERE! In closing, here is the most positive thing I have found about dating at midlife. Today's women over 40, 50 and 60 are more independent compared to their mothers generation. Women are amazingly resilient and would rather begin to pick up the pieces than to give in to self pity. What I am saying is that life is hard and no grass is greener single or married. But there are always options and in 2014 although the Dating Game is played differently. You can do it! Nothing good comes easy.
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...