by Matuschka Lindo
Spring has Sprung, is your midlife body ready for bare legs, shorts, sandals, and the sun on your face and hair? Remember your skin has changed and it's also more sensitive and dry. So, getting ready for the change of weather takes a little... well a lot more planning. People of color like me are one step ahead... sorry! Dark skin brings out more muscle definition. Start catching up by purchasing that spray tanning card to give your abs and legs some aid if you are looking for good definition. Color helps you look toned. Lets work from top to bottom on body prep for summer.Hair-
If you don't want it to look fried, start working in that lighter color slowly. Keep that sun roof open to help lighten the tones and start testing shades of colors. Also switch to summer hair products like a deep conditioner so that you can keep your locks shiny and moisturized during swim season. At 40+ it's not cool to go from winter dark shades straight to blonde... Gradual highlights will guarantee the look you want by summer. Shades of brown are HOT for 2015 hair color! Facial & Body Treatments:
Get them done NOW before the sun gets too intense. Peels, scrubs, bleaches and waxes... now is the time to start getting ready for the summer glow! No one wants to be peeling and behind closed doors in June so book those appointments. You've been under sweaters, coats and jeans so it's time not only to take off layers of clothes, but layers of skin! Here are some tips to get your skin ready for summer!
You will also need to switch your products here to lighter moisturizers and lots of sunscreen. Fingers and Toes:
Whether you like polish or not, go get those 20 nail beds cut, groomed, and shaped. I believe these are a huge extension of your outfits in the summer. Feet need to be cared for and ready for sandals. Hands need to be free of hangnails and chips. Clear polish or no polish is fine with cared for hands. Feet need to be crack free if not, DON'T WEAR SANDALS! That's just painful on the eyes! Trust me if you are over 40 you can't help but have dry feet and hands! Something happens to the moisture at midlife. It's like a fairy just sucks it out of you... If you are into color on those nails here are some great pairing shades from InStyle!
If you're feeling trendy for summer and you can rock these styles regardless of your age, here is what's in. Eyeliner wings on the lids, not Cleopatra just a hint of a turn up. Lips are nude shades and make up is minimal except for eyeliner it's popping. Center parts for hair styles (I will not be participating) and crimping is also making a slight come back. As far as clothes, it looks like stripes, stripes and more stripes! No matter what style you go for this summer just remember to be True to Yourself
and you will always look FABULOUS!Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...*above picture from Elle Canada
by Matuschka Lindo
Am I scared? Hell yes I'm scared! Am I excited? So much so that I am about to burst! Here is how it all got started... Last year there were a group of us mothers that basically raised our babies together. By the time our kids were 4 months old we named ourselves Play Group. Every Wednesday we would meet around 1pm right after naps and get the babies together. By the time the older ones turned two we were all pregnant with the second. Except for one that had twins first she, was pregnant with her third. Husbands were always traveling and out of town. Getting to Wednesday with any sort of sanity got harder. Soon Wednesday started at 1:00 and ended with dinner. We did that for about six years until everyone started different schools then playgroup moved to Christmas Break and Summer only... all the way through high school. Then we blinked and last year our first borns were graduating. Through out the last two years we have all been testing the waters of going back to work. One went back part time as a teacher, then full time, then she went back to school and is now a middle school counselor. Another went full time to help her husband with his business. Two more of us went part time in teaching and sales. I have free lanced my entire life and technically never really stopped working, but I haven't even thought about full time until recently. Now that the kids are pretty much out of the house Play Group is now Girls Night Out the Last Wednesday of every month. We have all been itching to re invent ourselves and make a difference, be heard, use new skills, learn more... but here is the crux. We are now ready to get paid for all our hard work and to be part of something new. How do you do that after you have been on the mommy track and volunteering for 10-15 years?
Test the waters. If you want to go back to school. Figure out why you want to go back now. Is it worth it? Will it help you get where you want? Do you need it? Maybe you just want to get back on a campus? Do your homework and make it happen if it's what you want. There are lots of websites and articles like THIS ONE
with great advice and steps to take. I didn't want school even though a few play group moms did. I wanted to know if I could commit to mandatory hours after being a free lance junkie for so many years. I started small with a part time job that required scheduled hours. I did this for a year and a half and found not only did I enjoy it, I LOVED it! Regardless if I was scheduled Saturday or Sunday it didn't matter. I had re caught the bug and I wanted more! My husband wanted to know if I was crazy. He would say it's retail what's the big deal. The big deal was having a place to go with expectations. Talking and socializing and meeting new people was refreshing. I enjoyed helping customers feel beautiful and purchasing items that made them look fabulous. It was like after I played tennis and we would go shopping with girlfriends before carpool pick up. But now I was getting paid. It's fun and keeps me up to snuff on fashion and the discount was the icing on the cake! Fast forward to January 2015. I am still freelancing and I have my odd jobs. I also have all my volunteering which I love. But I can feel the hunger for more building... it is time. Where do I start now that I have admitted to myself that I am ready to head back into the work force full time? I want to do something in communications. Be part of something big that will make a difference.
Step #1 Resume, you gotta dust that bad boy off and update it. This is where volunteering is key.
For all the years you got stuck chairing a committee, working on excel until midnight, organizing the auction or budgeting for a fundraiser... it's time to cash in on all those skills and transfer them to your resume. Yes that's right ALL those skills translate into business terms (operations, marketing, development), include every single one of them on your updated resume. Don't sell yourself short, remember you did all this while raising a family! Don't think for one moment that you aren't qualified or ready for the full time work force. We volunteer because we love to help and be part of a team doing good for our community. I found that employers want the same thing. They want team players and hard workers. Not everyone is ready to take it to the next step but when you are, know that your volunteering has been laying the ground work. It ALL counts! Hard work is hard work! Is it scary? Absolutely! Yet, it's also contagiously exciting, which overcomes scary. Change is intimidating even when you feel ready. Here is what I have learned. Be patient, the interview process is long. Applying on line gets easy after the first few, (there were some I never heard back from... their loss). Most online applications are followed by a phone screening interview, (be prepared and ready to talk for 20-30 minutes this is just as important as the face to face, remember you are trying to get in the door). If you get pass the screening next is usually an interview at the job site. Depending on the level of the job you could have even more interviews, with the CEO, President or a panel interview. Here are some tips for returning to the workforce.
This is a new journey for me as I am switching careers and going into 9-5 mode (actually 8-5 Egads). It's time... I'm ready for a new chapter. My family is supportive and my kids are so very proud and now young adults. They never knew the mommy that worked 50+ hours a week before they were born. My only other concern is where this blog will land with my new adventure. My hope is to continue sharing my experiences and findings as I try to figure it all out with hormones a ragging while adding a full time job to the mix. One thing I do know, it should make for a hell of a ride! Coming soon... I'll change my face book status and let you know about the new job. I start Monday!Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...*above photo by Pulsemusic.proboards.com
by Matuschka Lindo
Look at my cartoon character picture. According to my friends I look a lot more like her than I want to. One friend stated that my cartoon character had perfect midlife breasts and needed a new bra. Apparently I am in the same boat! I walked into a party one evening and one of my best friends from college kept staring at me. She finally blurted out loud, "Do you not have a bra on?" I respond with, "Of course I do!" I'm a 36 C, not really no bra wearing material. As good friends do, she followed up with, "You are sagging so bad I just assumed you had no bra on." That comment meant time for a group bathroom visit. We raced to a bathroom, I took off my shirt for her to examine and she gasps that I am wearing the worst bra she has ever seen! Okay, so I haven't bought a new bra in maybe 3 years. But I have a surplus of them so I just threw that one away. Fast forward to another party a few months later. Now she just comes up to me and grabs my bra straps and yanks them hard stating, "Your girls need to be here!" That's it, Brigitte wins! I go bra shopping and am shocked at how uneducated I am about my aging sagging breast and what it takes to wear the right bra at midlife. Shape Magazine
has some great basic advice for different breast shapes. One of the most important things to know is as you age, your breasts tend to spread out as well as down. Ugh Sorry Malcolm! In reality women should purchase a new bra every six months as they get older especially if they are department store bras. No, I am not making this up... so start saving for semi annual purchases. Who knew that turning midlife equated to the bra recycling business? Today I only own two pair after throwing 15 away.
What lies ahead for the shriveling future for our breasts as we age? I am typing this blog in bed and looking down at my keyboard. Between my neck and the keyboard, I look almost flat chested! The damn things have fallen into my armpits laying down with no bra on. I must say it really isn't a pretty sight. The big part of aging boobs is they lose elasticity. Put the image of a full balloon in your mind and age is the pin that someone is poking the balloon with again and again and again. That's the best visual I can give you. Of course, if you are reading this you are probably facing the same gravitational boob deflation that I am. But wait... sagging is the good news there are five other breast bombs that you can look forward too. Why don't you go ahead and sit down to read the rest of this blog. I'm going to share the one that took me off guard. Nipple displacement: (I can hear you cursing from here) nipples point to the side instead of straight ahead. WTH do we really want to know any more? That will bring an entire new look to nipping out. No more headlights I guess after 40 they are your side signal lights. Just horrific! Click Here
for more changes that can be expected in your breast as you age.
This is a perfect example of why I write the blog. I could have walked around for many more months with sagging girls and a midlife chest. But my girlfriend spoke up and helped me address the problem. It makes sense... our weight and our clothes sizes change all the time so of course our bra size will too. I just never realized I needed to replace bras like I do white pants. Also I learned that department store bras are not made to hold up like specialty store bras. Realizing that good bras are expensive and we are trying to keep the girls up up up. The choices and help you will receive at a specialty bra store will probably give you a bra with a longer shelf life for your rack
. Not to mention a larger variety in shapes and sizes. Including thousands of regular and specialty bras from sizes 28-58
and AA-N. I will be the first to admit I never knew they had any sized above DD or went up to a 58. You can only imagine the look on my face when I walked into Ann's bra shop wearing a C cup and she told me I need a G. I was like a G? What else am I putting in the cup with by breasts??? Walnuts??? G was she crazy... but now I have the most comfy bra. Things just aren't as easy as they were 25 years ago ladies. Click HERE for a Bra Calculator
to figure out your true size. I will admit, now I feel 20 years younger, the new bra forces me to pull my shoulders back and I feel sexy again. Taking care of each other is the key to aging well. Sharing things happening to our bodies and using resources to keep us healthy and fit will make us all look and feel better. Remember you are only as old as you feel! And I feel great with my girls standing up for their rights! Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
by Matuschka Lindo
Besides the fact that we are now pretty set in our ways and can no longer travel through Europe with just a back pack. There is a lot to consider when you get to midlife and you want to travel. March being Spring Break season and having a college kid who would rather go with his buddies than the family, opened my eyes to my New Transition Travel Itinerary.
It was like someone threw cold water onto my face. First, I had to get over the fact that my soon to be 20-something kid didn't even ask me first, if he could make plans without the family. I'm still looking in My Parents Handbook to see if that's allowed? Hell I don't know? Everything is so different now. Bye bye Disney World, hello Canyon Ranch Hotel & Spa in Miami Beach... that's a good thing. Still there are so many other changes. Now that many of our kids have flown the coop, trips are shall we say... more complicated and basically, just different. There are more all women trips with your girlfriends, couples trips, and more adventures between just you and your spouse. The let's keep shooting for those family vacations in between college spring breaks and new jobs are still part of the equation. Don't get me wrong, if you can snag a kid or two for two or three days, as midlife parents we are willing to move mountains to make it work. Lastly, there is the other looming transition. Your adult children's new significant others. GULP! I'm verklempt, this is quite a task for the new midlife travel agenda. Lord in heaven where to start?
Planning is Everything
... do you hear me Everything
. Don't kid yourself. Thelma and Louise we aren't. Between my husband and I alone, he is allergic to fructose and corn syrup. I am allergic to cheese and I don't do a lot of of carbs. We both can't read the fine print on anything without glasses and at no circumstances do we leave the house without Tums or Miralax. I will not divulge between the two of us who needs which one, but suffice it to say we can't just pick up and go without a check list. Traveling at midlife for us means checking and double checking and planning before we can even pull out of the damn driveway. Here are 6 reasonable travel tips for your midlife adventures.
The rest of it I guess is just an acceptance of change and the requirement of more creative planning. If your adult children are traveling with friends for a long weekend, offer to foot the bill before or after their trip to get them to the location of the family trip. Another option is to make the family trip close to where they will be for their trip. Maybe use www.doodle.com
to get your next vacation scheduled with all the young adults in your family. Let them see that you are acknowledging that their schedules are just as important as yours and you are willing to honor them to make a family trip possible. Besides, there are a lot of amazing trips you can now take that are ONLY offered to 20 and over children.
Even better schedule around the K-12 spring breaks if possible. Regarding the significant other... bite your tongue and welcome them if you want to be with your kid. Chances are its someone awesome who also cares for your child. If not, hmmm maybe that's another blog titled Getting Rid of Psycho Significant Others. Just kidding. Well, not really. In closing, I will say on a positive note, that at midlife traveling with girlfriends is quite the trend and a fun one! There's a little more free time so a weekend to the lake or the farm is very doable and quite the treat. If you want something more adventurous like a girlfriends bucket list vacation, there is actually a website for Women's Travel Groups
. Which makes me rethink my earlier statement. Maybe, just maybe, we can be Thelma and Louise... if just for a week. Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...