by Matuschka Lindo
Not everyone is a good candidate for hormone therapy when it comes to controlling menopausal symptoms. I am allergic to so many medications I have become very very cautious as to what I put in or on
my body. Hives or an all over rash just doesn't look good at 40-something. Sad thing is I am not even 50 and I already have a list of allergies against medicines that I have to write down for my internist. By the time I am 80 I will be faxing over a manuscript. I have a few friends doing hormone therapy. I tried testosterone pellets... it just wasn't a great match for me. No big surprise. Not much works with my sensitive body. What I have really noticed among my friends and peers is an increase in consuming so called natural supplements. I'm starting to get a little nervous about how many are out there and how do we know if it's good for our individual menopausal bodies. I found a website on Web MD that talks about 11 Supplements for Menopause.
I guess for me the biggest question is how do you know what is safe for you? Have you ever had a friend say, "Hey I take ___________________ you should get some I feel so much better." Well easier said than done. Let's take vitamin D for example. It's the latest trend and I am very deficient. My doctor put me on vitamin D. I went to a natural food store to get some. What a joke! I mean... I didn't know where to start. How can vitamin D become a research project in the aisle of the health food store. There is Vitamin D 1,000 IU, 2,000 IU, 3,000 IU, 5,000 IU, 10,000 IU and 15,000 IU. There are chewable, vita-melts, tablets, liquid softgels, and adult gummies. Do we want to even name brands? There must be 15 different brands minimum. Then there is the drastic price differences. If it costs more is it better? For the sake of not going totally crazy while I write this, lets say they all have a quantity of 30 capsules. (You know that is also a choice 30, 50, 60 100 or SAMS Supersize.) Okay, back to the quantity of 30. One can cost $5.95, another says $12.00, then there is $32.45 and finally one that's $51.00. I didn't even get into D3, vitamin D with vitamin B, D Immune complex, D Extra Strength, or D3 Maximum Strength. You have to agree the entire thing is laughable and has to raise some questions in your mind?
How in the hell am I supposed to choose a bottle of vitamin D. How can you not think this isn't somewhat of a scam? If you are like me I assume the more IU's, and the more expensive, and probably the easiest to swallow has to be the best right? No, not really, according to my healthcare professionals anything above $10,000 IU's in vitamin D can make you sick unless your doctor tells you to take that high of a dose. I first asked a guy with dreadlocks and a friendly smile what he recommends. He was very informative, recommended a brand, a price, and the strength (how many IU's) I should take. I picked it up, walked to the counter then I stopped. He didn't ask me why I was taking it? What was wrong with me? What my doctor said? What in the hell??? Since when did I start taking the advice from a salesperson on how to take care of my body? It's like we now believe health food stores are filled with pharmacists stocking shelves. I'm sure I am not alone? We have turned into market zombies. I immediately called my doctors nurse, I held on the line while even she was smart enough to go speak to him before she told me what to get. I needed 10,000 IU's, a 30 day supply because my levels were well below normal. Then I was told to switch to 5,000 IU's for 30 days. After that I had to take another blood test to determine where to go from there. Please just pay attention to what you are putting in your body. Then there are the plethora of Menopause /Dietary Supplements!
These really scare me. Seriously, what are they? Read them they all say the same thing more or less. Before you put anything into your mouth... I don't care if all your friends are raving about it on social media, talk to your doctor about YOUR BODY. Here are questions every woman in midlife should be asking her doctor
before she starts any treatment, any natural supplement or takes a pill for menopause. Before I get off my soap box on menopause supplements I have one more thing to bitch about. Don't carry a pill box until you are over 80. Come on, really? If you are going to carry a pill box you might as well start putting tissues up your sleeve and wrapping up your dollar bills in a little coin purse. I understand if you have true prescriptions for intense medical issues and you have them assorted at home in your jumbo weekly pill box. But when I went to a luncheon and saw a woman my age pull out a pill box for her primrose oil, multi vitamin, and whatever other three pills she had... I thought to myself, "Jesus you look like an old geezer." Besides chances are she is just peeing half that stuff out. But what do I know? I'm not a doctor. Just questioning the supplement industry who have women wrapped around their finger.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
by Matuschka Lindo
I've seen it with my husband, and many of the men 40 and over that I know... there is something missing. As we work our way through the ups and downs of midlife it is even more noticeable to me. Many midlife men do not have great friends. I don't mean acquaintances, people they work with, or male counterparts they know from their kids schools or athletic teams. I mean true friends. According to sociology professor Lisa Wade, American men are starving for friends.
They do not have the intimate friends they need or want. Many definitely don't have strong male friends to help them through a crisis. I started thinking about this as one hardship after another has unfolded the last few months with strong males that I know and admire. Some have lost jobs, others have lost loved ones, and this week I spent a long time talking to one of my dearest male friends who just found out he has stage 4 lung cancer. It got me to thinking who do these men reach out too? Can a wife fulfill the male fear and worries? Do women and men feel the same types of insecurity? I don't know the answer but I feel like something is missing for many men. Even after I talked to my male friend through tears I felt raw. My husband reached out to me to make sure I was okay, as he knew I was having a tough time. But in the end I had to call a girlfriend to dig me out of the horrible grief I was feeling. This made me start thinking who is digging these men out of their grief? Do they even know how to get relief? What I have found is very concerning. Everything you read says you can live a longer and healthier life with strong social connections and friendships. Studies show that loneliness accelerates age-related issues and that it is just as harmful to your health as not exercising, smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and alcoholism. Believe it or not loneliness is even twice as bad as being obese.
Why is it so hard for men to make friends? I know some go out and join groups or volunteer, but that seems to be camaraderie. Great for fellowship and bonding but still not what my daughter would call a BFF. My theory is they don't like to spill their guts. The more intimate you are... I believe the more connected you are, and that's something men just don't really do. It's as if they always have to be "ON" talking about work, sports, the latest news issue. Maybe there is so much pressure to test wits and war with words? I 'm really not sure... I need to do a polling with some men. I will admit that in Saint Louis the men that grew up in this area are pretty connected with friends from high school and college. I don't know if it's the carry over from so many single sex all boy Catholic high schools but it's a gift, I don't think they realize they have. When men move away from their stomping grounds or even when they get married, it's not uncommon for them to become lost when it comes to friends. Their focus has been supporting a family and the work force, and we women know they aren't the best multitaskers. We women invest a lot of time to cultivate our friendships regardless of what we are doing. Not sure men know how to do that or realize how important friendship is as you age. There is research out there that states when men hit their 30s, many cling to their high school and college friends. If those don't last or no longer exist, men have a hard time forming new friendships. So where does that leave men? Plan A, they can pick up the phone and reach out to those high school and college friends, because chances are they could use the call from an old friend. The next choice we'll call Plan B, is to start from scratch with your current surroundings. If you are a man reading this or a concerned female with a man in mind, www.askmen.com
has some great tips on how to meet and make male friends. NO, not a guy to pound beers with... real male friendship.
Let's circle back to my other concern? As I said all this came rushing to my mind as I was talking to one of my closest male friends fighting cancer for the second time in his life. Can a woman really get to the heart of the matter with a male friend? Then there is the age old question... Can men and women REALLY be just friends
? I am here to tell you that my best friend is my husband. But I became friends with Sean years before I ever met my husband. My answer to the age old question is YES men and women can be friends, if they are aware of boundaries. I'm not the only one who believes that... so does David Coleman a relationship expert, who suggests that there are some strict criteria, six to be exact, that determine whether you can have a platonic male female friendship.
Even so, I truly don't believe anything can replace a strong male to male friendship. Women... we need to not to get in the way of male friendships, we should encourage them. Now this doesn't mean late night syndicates or bars, that's not it. That single guy friend isn't the answer either... These new BFF's should be close to where you are in your midlife journey. They should have similar values, and they should respect your true best friend your spouse. There is a belief that as men reach a point where the past is longer than the future, they may be ready to go deeper. Don't give up on the bromance my male friends.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
by Matuschka Lindo
With the cold drizzle and freezing rain that hit many of us across the country I saw people slipping and sliding all over the place walking to and from their cars. I almost bit the dust myself over the weekend on icy bricks. Last year getting out of my car to pump gas at Sam's Club, I stepped out of the car onto a slick spot and slid all the way to the floor landed on my arse and banged my head on my car door. All I could think is damn are there video camera's at the gas pumps? If so, someone is laughing at my play by play. Not to mention it was one of those days I had a big coat on but only my pajamas underneath. It wasn't a pretty fall and my coat did pop open mid slide. I'll let your imagination run with that sight. Obviously we can fall at any age but once we get into our 40's and 50's them bones them bones are wearing down and becoming fragile.
Unfortunately I am faller and at my age it's no longer funny not to mention I can't get up real quick and brush off like nothing happened. My last fall was a couple of years ago in the Brio parking lot face first. It hurt so bad I had to crawl to the side because I heard a car coming and didn't have the strength to get up, but also didn't feel like getting ran over.
The other piece of this puzzle is that as we age our reflexes slow down, add to that changes in muscle mass and body fat and you have a recipe for a bad fall leading to a fracture or a break. As early as 40 we should start working to slow the process of these betraying body changes that are bound to take over as we age. Now, I know every fall does not mean a broken bone but it could still mean a pretty bad injury. And let's be honest recovering from anything seems to get harder and harder and take longer than it used to. As you get into your 60's, studies have shown that among Americans age 65 and older, fall-related injuries are the leading cause of accidental death. Balance exercises
can help people prevent many falls, increase their level of activity, and alertness, no matter what their age. Along with balance exercises doctors recommend the following to help with balance.
* Do muscle-strengthening exercises.
* Obtain maximum vision correction.
* Practice using bifocal or trifocal glasses.
* Be extra cautious after drinking
* Wear lower heels
My question was always is there a safe way to fall? Do I want to put my hands out and risk my wrists? Do I want to just fall back and hold my hands up and let my arse take the brunt of a fall? What is the best way to fall to allow the least amount of injury? Obviously landing spread eagle on the floor next to the gas pump probably isn't the answer. Here is what I found from the National Institute of Health.
*Being tall appears to increase your risk of a hip fracture.
*How you land increases your fracture risk. Catching yourself so you land on your hands or grabbing onto an object as you fall can prevent a hip fracture.
*Protective responses, such as reflexes and changes in posture that break the fall, can reduce the risk of fracturing a bone. Individuals who land on their hands or grab an object on their descent are less likely to fracture their hip, but they may fracture their wrist or arm. Although these fractures are painful and interfere with daily activities, they do not carry the high risks that a hip fracture does.
We all can assume that the most serious falls happen when people are older. What we need to understand though is that steps to prevent and treat bone loss and falls can never begin too early. Many people begin adulthood with less than optimal bone mass, so the fact that bone mass or density is lost slowly over time puts them at increased risk for fractures. Here are 10 ways to protect your bones.
Since I have lost quite a bit of height lately I am heading to get a bone density test. It's important that women remain proactive in knowing if they are at risk for developing osteoporosis or whether they have lost so much bone that they already have osteoporosis. It seems that only a BMD (Bone Mineral Density) test can measure current bone density, diagnose osteoporosis, and determine fracture risk. Talk to your doctors if you feel you need the test.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...*Above Picture by hollywoodstreetking.com
by Matuschka Lindo
Take out your doctors numbers and your 2015 calendar and get busy! You owe it to yourself first, your family, and even your friends who count on you and love you. You need to take care of YOU! Especially at midlife when the increase of things going wrong and falling apart become a hard reality. On Monday, January 5th, I sat in front of my desktop with a huge calendar. I picked up the phone and started with my least favorite. Just go for the jugular and get the worst appointment out of the way. For me it's the mammogram. Luckily (NOT) they had an opening for Wednesday the 7th. So, as you read this I am probably in a sketchy looking thin gown that I can't tie right. Freezing on one of the coldest days of the year in Saint Louis and flopping my breasts onto a cold flat plate to get freshly squeezed! Can we not just ultrasound these girls with some heated gel? In all seriousness, it's important to keep up with your necessary check ups. Here are a list of Health Screening Guidelines
you should be doing ages 40-60. I got my eyes checked and my yearly physical in November. February I'll complete the necessary screenings with my gynecologist. This was strategic as I do NO appointments involving a scale or blood work between December and January, peak party months and recovery period.
Why not be preventative and take care of yourself? With todays advanced technology the earlier you catch something wrong, the better chance of being cured or stopping things from getting worse. Yes, it is scary as you get older I agree. I am always afraid, and here is why. To me the doctors office is the one place where you feel truly alone. Because whatever the outcome... its on you, and only you. You cant share a diagnosis. It's your cross to carry, just you and the big guy upstairs. The way I see it, I want my cross to be as light as possible and to do that I have to be good to my body and take care of it. My advice, quit procrastinating. If you are really afraid call a friend to go with you and make it a lunch date. The earlier you start taking care of yourself the better chances you have for a healthy long life. Here are seven ways to stay healthier after 40:
As women, our bodies are changing so much with menopause things can happen that we never saw coming. One of the biggest changes for both sexes is weight. It's harder to manage and we have to keep an eye on it, and control it, if we are going to stay healthy. Read these Diet tips to help you stay slim, strong, and sane before, during, and after menopause.
For a 5'1 person this is a never ending battle. Oh! Okay, okay, I forgot I told you all that I shrunk dammit! For a 5'0 woman I constantly have to reset my body to get back down to my proper weight EVERY YEAR. I seem to always creep up 5-7 pounds by the beginning of a new year. Therefore, from January through the end of March, I usually go completely clean. I say goodbye to sugar, alcohol, and carbs! I probably wouldn't have to work so hard at my weight if my holidays of eating and drinking didn't start at Halloween and go through New Years Day. This year I tried just Thanksgiving through New Years Eve. Still 7 pound weight gain grrrr. Unfortunately, I think the key is to celebrate only on the actual holiday, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Eve. See that means only four days of eating whatever I want instead of 5 weeks. But who wants to do that? Sounds dreadfully boring... maybe when I'm 60. LOLNOTE:
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Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...*Above image by Kuma Health and Wellness