Back in the day we used to get in the car and the first thing you would do is turn on your local radio station to find out what was going on in town. Traffic, weather, local news and whatever competition or give away that was going on. I remember sometimes writing the number to call on my hand so my brother and I could try to win tickets to somewhere. AM or FM, it didn't really matter it was the airwaves of choice to start your day. Fast forward to 2014 and the 24 hour media news cycle. Social media, syndication, internet and digital stations, an array of multimedia hype. AM and FM local radio seem to be fading in the background but my hope is that the landscape is just changing. I hope there will always be a place for local radio. Morning and afternoon drive are still the preferred choice for local commuters. Other than those hours of the day... what's the incentive to listen to local radio anymore? I went back to radio August of last year to 1380 The Woman. I think it's a great concept all woman radio addressing women's needs. Maybe a little more time and money and a larger audience will unfold. The express highway of media information is moving so fast I'm not sure what is the favored outlet for receiving that information.
So now that I no longer have a regular show every day, it got me to thinking. The show had me start this blog. Do I continue? Maybe I blog a little and do a small segment one day a week on the radio? Still thinking... not sure what I will do. Midlife is a time when you step back and take a good hard look at your life. It's that time in your life when you want to do what you love. The daily grind just for the money is no longer appealing. Don't roll your eyes I am not living in the world of Kumbaya, Peace and Pi Phi Love. I know for many it may not be an option to leave their current job... but maybe you can change some things to make it more fulfilling. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. Just look for the right tools to work with the options and choices left in front of you. Career transitions in midlife I believe are more meaningful and you should carefully think through the changes to make it worthwhile and satisfying. Maybe you can't afford to do only what you love now, but you can start putting the wheels in motion and thinking about it.
Let me get back to you on the blogging. I write all the time... I write to myself so I can think out loud and work through what I can't understand or what I am frustrated about. That's how I started with the blogs. When my manager told me he wanted a blog once a week, I didn't even know what it was. So I just exchanged writing in my scratch books to putting it on a computer. I am still just writing for me, but now I am sharing my thoughts with you. The aging process and what comes out of peoples mouths as they age is so fascinating to me that I have to put it in print. It's almost comical that midlife and beyond transformation. Surely I can't keep all my snide aging thoughts and remarks to myself? Or should I? To be continued...
Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!
Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Is there a worse feeling than when you wake up at say 5:20am like I did today and you are so tired, and you now know you have less than one hour left to sleep. But then how sweet is it when you wake up at 1:13am and you feel relief knowing you have hours left... oh it's awesome isn't it. Either way we still have a problem, we aren't getting a good nights sleep. For our health and our sanity we need uninterrupted 7 to 8 hours of sleep. That's what all the studies say. I'm thinking to myself, who in the hell are these people that sleep for 8 hours? They can't possibly live in the United States. With our over achieving... See how many things we can do for everyone in the family, at work, charities, schools and any other left over baggage we can't say NO too! Eight Hours Really? Am I the only one that has the running play by play in my head of all the things I need to do the next day as I also punish myself with all the things I didn't get done the day before. GRRRRRRR
My goal is to try to get at least 6 hours of sleep
. I do believe anything less and I am basically going to be six feet under sooner than I want.
I have my ritual of putting on my pajamas, which consists of a tank and my husbands boxers. I can't sleep in all that frilly, lacy, silky, glamorous stuff. It itches, or I get too hot, or yes, I will admit that all night I will be thinking that I am teed up for sex. Then I will never get to sleep. Therefore I settle for my not so fancy jammie's, wash my face, get a nice cup of hot tea and I try to wind down. It gets harder and harder as I get closer to 50. I'm finding there is a reason for no sleep at midlife and my primrose pills aren't helping anymore. Actually there are three reasons according to the menopause expert: Age, Change in Hormone Levels, and Stress.
So there in lies the reason(s) why I can't sleep anymore and why my energy levels and moods tend to be erratic. Mister Sandman won't bring me a dream dammit!
I know sleep is important and usually when I am not shoving my face with junk I tend to sleep better. It's the less than six hours of uninterrupted sleep that brings on the vicious cycle of craving carbs and wanting to eat crap because I am too tired to cook anything healthy. Then the bad food makes me more tired but in a restless way... and then I start all over again, until I realize I need to disconnect the feeding tube from my ass. Another bad vice wine, wine is not the answer
, I tried that. It helps me fall asleep but I can't sleep straight through the night. I wake up in the middle of the night at about 1:13am. You must know what I am talking about don't you? It's a tough battle at midlife but we have to stay diligent and make ourselves follow good sleep hygiene. Eat clean, wake up and go to bed around the same time every day. Don't exercise, drink alcohol or eat anywhere close to bed time. And pray! Pray, pray, pray, for sweet dreams.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
How long can a middle age woman continue to shop at discount superstores or drug stores for beauty products. Well, the answer is complicated after speaking to several specialist in the field of dermatology and a midlife make-up artist
. Drug store brands and salon products can have the same ingredients but the amounts of those ingredients are different. Here in lies the problem and where it gets complicated. Over the counter brands may have the same effective ingredients in a product, but in lower quantities. Meaning they probably don't have the amount of the ingredient needed to be effective, especially as you get older.
I have always been a Neutrogena/Oil of Olay, basic no fuss kind of girl. So you could say I haven't changed my beauty habits since I was in high school. Let's see, does that make sense? Do I wear the same type of clothes I wore in high school? Nope. Do I have the same hairstyle I had in high school? Nope. (I will also throw out there that I got rid of the blue eyeshadow thank heavens.) Then why the hell am I still using the same skin care? No wonder when I hit 40 my face looked like an acne ridden teenager. That's how I was treating it! Time to accept my age and rethink my routine.
Let's start with skin care... at 40-something I need to be using a non foaming cleanser, SPF (and don't think because you have skin of color you don't need SPF. That's a myth, you need it sista!), Retinoid & Peptide Rich Serum and lastly Moisturizer with Glycerin. There is truly Skin Care for Every Age
and if you don't adjust as you age you are in for a rude awakening. The good news is that no matter what age you are it's still usually just 4 basic products when it comes to skin care. The bad news is the more active ingredient help you need (aka the older you get) the pricier it may be.
So even though you may want to go down kicking screaming and fighting father time, embrace your age and accentuate what makes you beautiful. Even when it comes to make-up you need to make it age appropriate in reverse. Less is More... Lighten up on the thick eyeliner, instead of Black Noir by day do Brown or a thinner lighter line. Put more mascara on your outside lashes to make eyes look brighter and lift them upward. Focus on your brows, not make-up that targets crows feet. Lighten up on your foundation maybe a light bronzer to dash out by day. Save dark colors, shimmer, glitter and heavier foundation for special occasions or evening events where hard bright lights don't hit you directly. The word of the day is Change
! Your smiles, lines, bags and coloring are changing. Your skin is getting thinner and drier. Change
your products and your skin will keep up with your beautiful changes. Its time to say... Bye Bye Drug Store
, I'm a big girl now.Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...
Growing up one of my favorite things to watch on television at the end of every year or every awards show was the part where they show all the people who died for the year. All the singers, actors, musicians etc. where you see the clips of them and there is music in the background. I use to be mesmerized that they had left this world these people who I could still watch on television or at the theatre... yet they were gone. What is it about that strange phenomenon? What draws us to these final tributes and what draws us to these people that we really don't know at all? Seriously, I only know their characters in a movie or a sitcom. Maybe an album I played over and over or the way they perform at a concert. Were they good human beings, faithful, compassionate, trust worthy? I never really cared back then, it was just a highlight for me at a certain point in my life. In some ways I still look to see who we lost that was famous; (Memoriam 2013)
but it's not really as important to me as I start losing people that I really do know and care about.
I noticed two things when it came to deaths once I hit midlife. First, I started noticing that with age came my own memoriam of dear friends and family. Good people who I actually knew had done great things and changed lives if even in the smallest of ways. They were great parents, husbands, friends not pretend characters. They were people who truly blessed me by entering my life in some way. Next, I noticed that many deaths happened around the Holidays. Which was so frustrating, we're supposed to be joyous and happy right? Believe it or not there is research to support my death theory and I have witnessed it the last several years. More people die between the start of the Holidays Mid-December through New Year's Day
. And they are not dying for the reasons you may think... Studies show that the suicide rate doesn't spike at the Holidays. In fact, the suicide rate in December is at it's lowest. The homicide rate also goes down for the Holiday. They are just natural deaths. My grandmother believed that God saved the best for his favorite time of year. And she wanted to be part of that group, she actually prayed for it.
We used to talk about death all the time. I would tease her and say, "Are you ready to go abuelita?" She would curse at me and tell me she would tell me when she was damn well ready. Well, she was ready at 93 years of age. She wanted to go during the Christmas season because she used to tell me that God would take all who died that time of year straight to heaven. That was his gift from advent through New Years. Not sure if it's true but I choose to believe. She wanted to have her wake and final mass at her favorite church where she went almost everyday in Chicago at Holy Name Cathedral
. I loved going with her when I visited, it is a beautiful Cathedral. It burned down in the Great Chicago Fire of 1871 then was re-built 4 years later. My Grandmother told me she was ready to die on her birthday August 14, 2009. She wanted to make it to Advent but said she was at peace and ready. After surviving another fire February of 2009 The Cathedral was more beautiful than ever and had just reopened August 1, 2009. She went to mass and decided it was ready for her... My grandmother Violet Josephs, died December 22, 2009. She was 93 and got the Christmas present she wanted.
This year my personal Memoriam list was pretty long and many friends lost parents and spouses and other loved ones... The most recent loss a dear neighbor on New Year's Day. I think my grandmother was right. God takes some of the best during the Christmas Season. Keep looking forward so you don't miss what God puts in front of ya!Matuschka's Midlife... Telling it like it is...